'Ifs'

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Warbsywoo

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There are so many 'ifs' in life.
Sometimes they just pass you by and you never even notice, until it's too late and you realize that that moment will never come by again.
And that's when you regret it.

I have too many 'ifs' to mention, such as not talking to this girl I liked because I was too shy, or not seizing the opportunity to enter the art contest because I thought the competition was too good.
In fact, I could've come out a winner in anything.
So what holds people back?

Anyways, anyone care to share the things you regret the most?
Not only will it cheer me up, it will also take something off your chest. ;)
 
i always do it while watching sports, like what "If" he scored we would of won, and what if he didnt miss that crucial goal blah blah.
 
i missed the job opportunity of a life time. if only i had read that e-mail. insted my friend got it and is doing really well and im still looking for a job 2 years on...
 
What do I regret the most? Um, too many things. Serious personal stuff that I won’t mention, but all I know is that we shouldn’t let the past live our lives for us.Yeah, there will always be regrets, but what good will it do by pondering such things? It will only bring you down and instead of healing the scars, you’ll be the one re-opening the wounds yourself.

I know I’ve had a lot “If” moments, myself…but everything is usually done in good fun or simply wistful thinking. Nothing bad with those, but I do realize that it tends to make me feel a little depressed sometimes, especially if that wistful thought was something you really wanted in life. BUT. Like I said…don’t look too much in the past and concentrate on what you’ve got now.

I guess what holds people back in these “if” situations is simply the word itself. IF. “If” does not guarantee anything. “If” is “If”…”If I do this, will I fail?” … “Maybe” And so the fear takes a hold on us and most of us don’t wanna come out as a failure, loser, or anything that brings disappointment towards us.

“If” is all about wanting to take that chance, but know you probably shouldn’t because you’re not sure of anything in this world. “If” is something you’d like to think about every so often and make that imaginary life to your liking – to come out as the winner in the end. But then reality comes crashing down again, and you know right there and then that you should just forget the whole “If” situation and move on. And so we do…
 
What if I was still with that one guy?
I would probably be an undwed teenage mother working at the waffle house until I'm 30...
Thank GOD for parents. Thank goooooooooddddd.
 
What if moments are what rule some lifes. I know that they are a huge part of my own being a writer. I find myself constantly saying What if this happened and then this and this etc trying to come up with different ideas and scenarios and trying to shape them into something that many people would want to read and live.

As for really asking myself what if, I always am. The future depends on what ifs and if they will truly happen or not.
 
So life basically composed of ifs, correct? ;)
Obviously we may never know, especially never know what the outcome would have become if we had done otherwise than what we did in actuality.

Regret also comes along the way, but then again, putting it this way, how are we supposed to regret anything if the current outcome is actually the best possible one.
No regrets, my new maxim.
 
Most of the time, I make "what ifs" about serious matters. "What if I had never done that" is the biggest what if of them all. I always wonder what would happen if I might have chosen the latter option in big situations.
 
I mainly question relationships and education.
What would have happened if I didnt date my ex?
What would have happened if I didnt go to university?
What would have happened if ...
There are many "ifs" in my life and I wish I could have seen what the alternative would be.
 
the only "if" in my life that i can think of is "what If i dropped french" or "what if i'd just ignored her "sassy" comment instead of falling out with her?"

the general consensus for both answers is i'd probably be happier...
 
Yeah, sometimes I wonder… What if I things worked out with her or her? Would I be married or would I have any children? What if I continued living in the south or what if I choose a different career? Either way, I try not to dwell in the past, but I guess it can’t be helped at times.
 
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