Serious I think I've lost it

[Bones]

Hey guy's here is my problem.

I think I may have lost a good friend.

I grew up with her, known her since I was 9, and we did fall out and stuff but she was one of my oldest friends.
Thing is she can be selfish, and attention seeking, and she does crazy stuff because of this. And it really annoys me

She came out with me for my friend's 21st, and at the time she had a boyfriend, didn't think it was anything serious. So she made out with a couple of guys at this club, and me and my friend were suprised.
After that happened, about a month later she told me she was pregnant, she was with her man for 6 months when this happened. And then she recently got married to this bloke, pretty quickly and I was really worried that she was rushing into things, and I told her that I thought she was making a mistake, she didn't take it well, and I didn't go to the wedding so I think I hurt her feelings.

So did I make the mistake of telling her the truth? Should I keep my nose out of it? I'm just worried about her....

 

[CassinoChips]

No, you were in the right. My girlfriend went through something kind of similar, and for a while lost a friendship because of it. But then her friend realized that what my girlfriend had told her was correct, and they've started to patch things back up. I would wonder whether you were really her friend if you held something in when it could only help her. That's what friends are for, to knock sense into you when you're acting a fool.

 

[glow]

no you were just trying to look out for her, you should call her and tell her the reason why you didnt go to the wedding, you might as well do it now, before years go by


tell her you were unhappy with her decision, but it doesn't change the fact that you are both close friends ad you care about her and want to be happy and spend time with her. Say your sorry for not going to the wedding.

well, if you are sorry. hahah sometimes its better to say you are even if your not. its an easy way to patch up relationships. XD

 

[Shu]

I can't tell you how much my marriage/relationship has been affected by this. It always resorts to when you give relationship advice when the person is on the upper with someone. That friend of yours is probably going to break a guys heart (aka her husband) and she's going to cover it up by saying it was his fault.. etc. etc..

Bottom line is if they were in a relationship/lived together to try it out/ and saw eachothers flaws without the need for a 3rd part.. fine great, go through the marriage.

To be honest you were just being the good friend, don't sweat it. Personally I wish you were the type of person around here. My wife gets poisoned all the time by folks on the edge of divorce, or having the most miserable times in their relationship due to the dude being a bit of an ass.

There are reasons I don't talk crap about the dude when the woman complains about him. So Good for you for mentioning that to her. She seems like the type to be on a road to destruction.

 

[Ayumi Hamasaki]

You should never just keep your nose out when it's important.

A friend who won't tell you the way they feel isn't a very good friend. You did the right thing.

I would say that you should talk to her about like the others said. Explain yourself, and if she still doesn't like it, then one day it's likely she'll realize that she should be grateful when a friend is looking out for her.

 

[Bones]

Thing is she can be selfish, and attention seeking, and she does crazy stuff because of this. And it really annoys me

This is my main problem, when I told her that I thought that she was making a mistake, she just turned it around to make me look bad, sometimes she just doesn't listen.

That friend of yours is probably going to break a guys heart (aka her husband) and she's going to cover it up by saying it was his fault.. etc. etc..

The thing I'm worried about is her getting hurt, she's carrying this man's baby hoping things will work out for her and the kid, personally I don't like the guy and when they first got together he was sponging off her, with money and a place to live, 8 months ago I didn't even think it was a serious relationship, and they've been together half the time of my partner and myself, and we're not even engaged.

Back to my earlier quote of myself, she is selfish, and seeks attention, I fear that this is why she did this, to get everyone speaking to her and about her as well. I'm just so shocked about it all still and I don't think she's speaking to me at the moment, I don't know what to do.