Serious Help thread?

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Hastega
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I'm not sure if / where there is a help thread, but I was wondering if you guys could offer me some advice? I don't really have someone to talk to about this.

Tonight I was planning on going to the bar to perform comedy. First I would like to let you guys know I don't strive to make contacts in my city. I don't like to network with people where I'm from; the comedy scene here is bogus. But that's besides the point. It's to give you insight into why I might be laughing at what this person is saying.

Lars, who is the host of the comedy night at the bar found out somehow I was bad mouthing a comedian friend of his over facebook. Happened weeks before he talked to me about it. Took me outside told me to stop bad mouthing his friend. I agreed and said I'm sorry. THEN, get this, went on to say "You're a worse comedian than he is. Neil is better than you." This blew my mind. Because everytime Neil gets on stage he bombs. At least every time I've seen him. And my last three shows went spectacular and Lars said I've never done really well, which is insane because I have! I know I have! I've seen it!

Not only did I disagree, but who is he to say he's the authority on whether or not i'm a good comedian? I talk about how I don't think other comedians are good with my comedian friends, but I don't go out of my way to tell those comedians they aren't good. Because they would say "Screw you, who are you to be the authority on that?" Then he says "You'll never be on the tonight show. You'll never be on SNL."

Then I go home, and distraught as I am I call my friend to ask if he wants to get a drink so he says ok and I meet up with him at the bar. I tell him I lost my glasses so I can't see. Then he tells me to go and find a friend of ours and ditches me. So I try, and obviously I can't find him. I try to contact the other friend multiple times and no answer. So eventually I leave.

What's your take on all this guys?
 
My roommate is also trying to be a comedian. He is going through the same ups and downs as you are. I suggest to you to do what he does. If some idiot is attacking your ability or is being a dick, then use it in your show. Fuck'em. Just as long as the crowd is having a great time, who cares? And as for your friend ditching you, well, friends do that sometimes. I know I've done that a couple of times. I wouldn't sweat it.

As Sam Elliot said in the Big Lebowski, "Sometimes you eat the bar, and well, sometimes the bar eats you."

Chin up, man.
 
Personal issues and such would be most fitted in Temple of the Ancients, so I'll move it there for you. ;)

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Oh he sounds like someone I know who insulted something I did for no reason. They act like they're the authority on everything, and they know every little thing about it, when they suck ass at it themselves. What I did is immature though, I found something that he liked and though the was good at it, and tried to force him to see how bad he actually he is at it.

So I had my petty vengeance. But since you're talking comedy you should just use it as inspiration. That' what I would do. Add it into the act. If you're good, know you're good, and don't let those who are jealous try to break that belief.
 
Comedians are notorious for being the most hateful and spiteful group of people, especially when it comes to others in their profession having a little success. And even moreso if it comes about in a way that costs them a gig or two. I agree somewhat with the advice of using it in your routine, but you have to be careful with that because it could cost you down the road, and it might burn some bridges.

I think the best course of action is to shove it in their face by going up on stage the next time and absolutely killing it. Use their criticism as fuel to drive you. And every time you have some little bit of success down the road, make sure they know about it. Send them a press clipping or something.
 
Thanks guys. I wasn't planning on using it in my bit though seeing as how it's moreso a spirit breaking sort of situation. I was however planning on using it as inspiration to be more competitive. Comedians are definitely the most spiteful and hateful group of people. Most of us have conditions, or problems or some sort or the other. And we're always vying for the two or three minutes to speak to a group of people about our problems or our ideas. And it's not just one or two of us it's like 25 or 35 of us in one night.
 
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