Do you regret after getting revenge?

[Morrigan]

that's something that i'm wonder about you people.
do you regret after getting revenge to someone that did you something terrible even if he was your friend or close relative?

hope to find out soon enough and to see how your dealing with it.

 

[Tidus Blade]

Well, once a friend of mine kinda betrayed me, and ive been annoying him ever since, ive already planted a keylogger and virus in his computer, ive been insulting him and everything but at the end of the day i just want peace with him, it annoys me to think that one of my good friends is my enemy now.

 

[Davey Gaga]

Hmm ... this doesn't appear to be debateable in any way. I'll move this to Costa Del Sol.

*moved*

 

[Ximruccilim]

I do not persist in considering someone a friend after they do something deserving of any serious revenge.

And no, I do not.

 

[Sephire]

It depends really on what the situation is and what the other person has done. There are times where I have gotten revenge and thought: "Yeah, you deserved that. So whatever, I don't feel bad." An example of this was when someone insulted my friend, calling her all these names [I wont repeat but it was nasty]. Since I'm very protective of my friends I wanted to get revenge, so I yelled back at the name caller who started crying. I didn't feel bad about their tears because I thought: "Lessin taught. Now you know how it feels you might stop with the catty comments."
There have been times though when I've got my own back and then felt really bad about it. I can't think of an example right now but I know I went overboard and couldn't stop thinking about what I'd done, so I apologized for it.

 

[Gaaramaster]

Whenever i get revenge on someon, i feel bad. Mainly cause it labels me as a bad person, but if it's a friend, that ruins a friendship. all for 5 minutes of self accomplishment.

 

[Goatishfiend]

Yeah, I've always regretted revenge. Usually if I can delay it, I get over it and realize that whatever someone else did, I would only typically make it worse. All the mean things I said (and continue to say). Those little passive aggressive things you pull when you feel snubbed. I've never really felt it was worth it by the time all is said and done.

Typically what someone did to you has little to nothing to do with you in the first place. It's a function of whether they had a fight with a relative, didn't have any milk for their cereal, got splashed by a passing bus, or whatever, and they end up snapping off on you. Taking your revenge just ensures that it's personal and that it's perpetuated. What was a friend, acquaintance, or neutral party on a bad dayfor them becomes an enemy of yours from then on.

I'm not a Christian--had that all burned out of me by all the evangelicals I grew up with, but I really have to advocate the whole "turn the other cheek" mentality as well as the "they know not what they do". Most people are oblivious to the effects of their actions, attitude, and idle chatter. People who are personally attacking usually feel a good deal of remorse for their behaviors when the person they attacked doesn't in turn justify the original offense. Meanwhile generally nasty people who do generally nasty things create their own punishments for themselves without anyone else having to resort to vengeance.