Serious Students of Love

Aztec Triogal

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How well do you learn from your past relationships? your disappointments in dating? failed attempts at picking up a mate? Do you apply the lessons of your gaffes in future relationships or do you just try the same old methods until you meet someone that appreciates the way you operate?

Try not only to answer the questions but give examples. Tell when you've screwed up in a relationship and learned to not screw up in similar ways again. Tell when you have screwed up multiple times in the same way. And tell of any current love struggles you might be going through and try to apply others lessons to them.
 
I scerw up the same way all the time, I get too defensive, someone says no to me over something, first thing I wil do is go do it, because I refuse to be stifled or told what to do. It's not really a problem in the current relationship, becasue he's so laid back he's horizontal, he'd never try to stop me doing something

Ooh one thing Ive learned, is to never acept jealousy. I'd just take it off an ex, let him accuse me of everything under the sun, even though I didnt DO anything to warrant or even arouse any suspicion so now I don't take any piss taking. Someone get's jealous and I tell them to deal with it. Their insecuities aren't my problem and if I feel it IS becoming a problem, then the relationship is doomed. I'm not and have never been a jealous person, so I can't fathom the logic behind it. A girl came onto my ex ages ago, he told me about it, all I said was, did you reciprocate? He said no, and I said fine. Then he was baffled as to why I wasn't kicking off...so I was like, as long as you didnt DO anything, who cares? She made herself look stupid and I cant control her behaviour. Someone comes onto you, so what? Soooo anyway. Ive leant to bnot let someone elses jealousy rukle my life
 
My biggest problem in relationships, without question, is being pushy and impetuous. I fall for people far faster than I ever should... and when I know I want something, there's no question in my mind about it. I make up my mind and become very one-minded. It makes me very unappreciative of her needs and circumstances. Most of the time it takes the form of me trying to progress a relationship more quickly than it should, but sometimes it takes the form of me pushing a relationship forward that simply can't happen at the moment (if at all). It's very difficult for me when it's the latter. It almost always results in a broken heart for me. It's a problem I've met face-to-face many times but it never seems to stop me from making it again.

I've tried being happy for status of the relationships I have, regardless of their progression. I've tried categorizing women I've liked as friends and trying to forget any feelings I may have. I've tried completely ignoring the person altogether. It never seems to help. When I make up my mind, not even I can change it back. And it always ends up in me making an ass out of myself because I just can't let go. Drunk phone calls, texts, and PMs (sadly)... are sometimes frequent events for me. It's gotten so bad I don't even carry my phone to the bar anymore.
 
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