So I've got this friend here. And I am fully aware that we need to simmer the hell down, but things keep tipping our 'balance' of being chill and it's just a never-ending argument. We're constantly passive aggressive and sarcastic to each other and it's just back and forth.
I admit, sometimes I throw flames on the fire, but it's usually because I got pissed after something he did. He's a couple years younger than me, and I suppose I'm trying to give him some advice now and again. I do agree that I can be a little bit of a control-freak, but usually when it's perfectly clear someone is in the wrong. We do like the same types of videogames, we (try to) discuss them regularly. Then usually the conversation unfolds to a piss-fit. The reason why I'd usually start the fire, is by making an insinuating comment about his lack of an attention span, or how flirtatious he is with vulnerable/dumb chicks. He won't straight out seem offended by what I say, so I shut my mouth about it for that conversation and continue. Then LATER, we'll have another conversation and he'll get back at me for it, when I'm totally chill myself.
We kind of work in this pattern both ways. It's the same for both of us, but he picks on me for different reasons.
We'll be talking about something videogame related or some random topic, then out of the blue he will somehow find a way to introduce the topic of his exercising routine and how busy he is because he has 'so many friends to hang out with'. Then I'm just like "dood. Watthefuck?" Then he'll proceed to shove in my face that I should get out more, and straight out say I have no life. Then the argument happens. He'll use these things to retaliate if I ever start things, but sometimes these can come out of nowhere, possibly in response to an earlier sarcastic remark I'd make myself... For example, he seriously procrastinates his progress through Final Fantasy X, and I always encourage him to keep on going due to how awesome I think it is. Then he plans to have a marathon one night for multiple hours, and I praise him for it and stuff... Then about three hours after he announces he started playing it over Facebook chat, I asked him how he was doing, and he said "Oh, just took a one hour break to work out, exercise, do work for money and skateboard." and then I just ignore him entirely because in my mind I'm like; "If you bring up that topic one more time..." Because it's just a recurring thing that he never shuts up about, and a small, but mentionable topic that he always brings up is "how much of a pussy I am for supporting anti-gun laws in Canada." He most often denies that he brags about his life being superior to mine, which is what flames me up, to do what I described above.
This upcoming school year, he's supposed to join me. So we'll have plenty more time to 'socialize' together. I'm honestly stressed out about this and I don't want to be feuding every day. How can I settle things with him? I see a great friendship here, but we honestly have some very incompatible differences that just, dare I say it, rustle my jimmies daily. He doesn't know me well enough to know how many friends I actually have/hang out with, or how often I get out. We talk most often over the internet, as we have our own separated group of friends that we hang out with. Should I strive to get things more close and personal in order to prevent this awkward feuding? This back and forth 'sudden insult' competition is getting old, but we both just get so pissed at eachother. Should I ditch him?
I admit, sometimes I throw flames on the fire, but it's usually because I got pissed after something he did. He's a couple years younger than me, and I suppose I'm trying to give him some advice now and again. I do agree that I can be a little bit of a control-freak, but usually when it's perfectly clear someone is in the wrong. We do like the same types of videogames, we (try to) discuss them regularly. Then usually the conversation unfolds to a piss-fit. The reason why I'd usually start the fire, is by making an insinuating comment about his lack of an attention span, or how flirtatious he is with vulnerable/dumb chicks. He won't straight out seem offended by what I say, so I shut my mouth about it for that conversation and continue. Then LATER, we'll have another conversation and he'll get back at me for it, when I'm totally chill myself.
We kind of work in this pattern both ways. It's the same for both of us, but he picks on me for different reasons.
We'll be talking about something videogame related or some random topic, then out of the blue he will somehow find a way to introduce the topic of his exercising routine and how busy he is because he has 'so many friends to hang out with'. Then I'm just like "dood. Watthefuck?" Then he'll proceed to shove in my face that I should get out more, and straight out say I have no life. Then the argument happens. He'll use these things to retaliate if I ever start things, but sometimes these can come out of nowhere, possibly in response to an earlier sarcastic remark I'd make myself... For example, he seriously procrastinates his progress through Final Fantasy X, and I always encourage him to keep on going due to how awesome I think it is. Then he plans to have a marathon one night for multiple hours, and I praise him for it and stuff... Then about three hours after he announces he started playing it over Facebook chat, I asked him how he was doing, and he said "Oh, just took a one hour break to work out, exercise, do work for money and skateboard." and then I just ignore him entirely because in my mind I'm like; "If you bring up that topic one more time..." Because it's just a recurring thing that he never shuts up about, and a small, but mentionable topic that he always brings up is "how much of a pussy I am for supporting anti-gun laws in Canada." He most often denies that he brags about his life being superior to mine, which is what flames me up, to do what I described above.
This upcoming school year, he's supposed to join me. So we'll have plenty more time to 'socialize' together. I'm honestly stressed out about this and I don't want to be feuding every day. How can I settle things with him? I see a great friendship here, but we honestly have some very incompatible differences that just, dare I say it, rustle my jimmies daily. He doesn't know me well enough to know how many friends I actually have/hang out with, or how often I get out. We talk most often over the internet, as we have our own separated group of friends that we hang out with. Should I strive to get things more close and personal in order to prevent this awkward feuding? This back and forth 'sudden insult' competition is getting old, but we both just get so pissed at eachother. Should I ditch him?