Just wondering about side chicks and FWB's ...

[Morrigan]

I didn't read all the posts here,but I did read the 1st post.
And I'm gonna be one of those to openly admit that I don't support that sort of thing.No I would not engage in it myself(nor have I) and I would be pretty judgemental if a friend did it.
Why I don't agree with this?Because I think it degrades friendship.I'm not against sexuality and all that,but what's the point if you can't develop a sort of friendship with another person WITHOUT involving physical action?And it comes down to the argument,that males and females cannot beJUST friends(although I wanna believe they can).
Let alone that I view it as a very irresponsible thing to do.Because you get into own to fulfill YOUR physical desires,that's why you get into one.And if the other person does happen to develop feelings for you I think you'd try to get away from them the sooner you can.Therefore ruining the "friendship" part too(but then I don't think it exists if you don't try to maintain it).
As for developing feelings on your own,in that case all I have to say is that you were asking for it.
I don't mind being called all sorts of adjectives for not being characterized by liberty on this department but I strongly believe that some things should be kept "sacred and pure"(sounds a bit cheesy),meaning not involving sexual action.
I personally wouldn't wanna get involve with people who think so little of sex and have aren't too considerate towards their so called "friends".
I hope I'm not getting out of topic here but I would like to add that the case of people who can not be monogamous and devote themselves to only one person is different and I again wouldn't get involved with someone so unfitting for me.

Something extra I would like to add.Personally I am against this because i feel that sex is getting everywhere.On one side it is good that people are more open about their preferences,or their problems and insecurities and how we receive sex education too.On the other hand sex is everywhere,we've become so sex-centric today that there is almost no movie without a sex scene in it,because you know...sex sells.So I think both sex has been degraded and many "products" involving itfor the sake of success.

[PhoenyxAngel]

Ok, here's my story and thoughts....

About a year and a half ago I had a crush on this guy and he started showing interest in me. So we went on a few casual dates, and me being me I started falling for him. Little did I know, he was going on casual dates with another girl (who ironically has the same name as me. Very convenient). So fast forward a few weeks later I begin thinking about the possibility of us being boyfriend/girlfriend. Turns out he wants to be FWB. He basically felt nothing for me emotionally, but thought I had awesome tits. Yeah....

But the other girl? He wanted a relationship with her, but she didn't want one with him. He had his heart broken (much like he broke mine) and on the inside I was happy that he had his heart broken by her. BUT like an idiot I kept hooking up with him thinking that maybe he would somehow fall for me too. Of course that didn't happen. Though at one point he did say he wanted to try again between us, but as a couple. Aka dating. Aka what I wanted. Well, that didn't work out and I had my heart broken again. Fast forward to today and we hooked up (again) at several points but right now we're just friends. If you could really call it that.

Moral of the story: FWB is bad news. Someone will end up with their heart broken, and friendships are ruined. At least from my experience it seems that way