I think it's the same in any aspect of life. I mean, I have met some wonderful people here, some wonderful people back home and even some wonderful people on XBL. But I still think if I met Tom/Ted/Jimbob/Fred like 10 months later, it might have been so different.
For example. A friend I originally met on XBL, Dean. He is an awesome lad. Lived a few miles away from me before I moved. Was working in a Supermarket and was pretty much enjoying it. Not the greatest job but it got him by. We'd Text whilst working, just fuck about on weekends and so on. About 8 months into knowing him he lost his job because he was reading a racist joke out to a work colleague and there was a woman behind him who heard it and obviously she went and reported it. And because this woman was putting pressure on the workplace, needless to say, he had to go. After this he was out drinking every night and getting wasted, and just genuinly fucking up his life to be fair. So I can't help but think we wouldn't be as close friends if I had met him during this transition in his life because my first impression would be he was a bit of a boozer and what not.
You have my friend Craig. When we are put in the same room we are like 2 hyper 10 year olds and laugh at everything. I knew him throughout school but I never really spoke to him until my last year there. We were both close to a mutual friend, of which we almost never speak to now. Shows you who your friends are at times, eh? So we just got on better and started hanging out more. Admittedly though my first impressions of Craig weren't great. Like...he would try sneaking into the Cinema's and "forgetting" his wallet and shit like that. Really pissed me off. But I feel liek if I started talking to him sooner then perhaps we wouldn't have stayed in contact after I left school. I can't really explain why but I just have the feeling it would happen?
I am thankful that I don't talk to a lot of friends from back in school. I have a few on Facebook and they are all in their own little cliques now and reading their status updates FUCKS ME OFF! Seriously, it's like "I go to University so I am clearly more intellegent than most of my friends list. Let's discuss current affairs such as Afghanistan or Euthanasia clinics." - It just grips my shit because they aren't the people I remember and it's almost like they don't want to remember that person. They just want to be like "Hooray Henry" and be like "Look at me, look how great I am" and all that bullshit. Everything they say is to try and get one over on you.
But when I look at it the other way, I think I could have easilly lost a friend if things didn't happen the way they did. For example, I have a Norwegian friend who lives in the UK. I always go out my way to see him when I am back home, but we obviously have this sort of special bond due to the fact we both have had the same shit happen to us. As in....Norwegian moving to live with his English partner...Scotsman moving to live with his Swedish partner etc. So we can always talk about foods we miss, or just anything in general so we are always on the same wavelength. But perhaps if I didn't move or he didn't move we might not have had a speciffic reason to stay in contact so much.
I guess it's down to the person really. I always make an effort - perhaps too much at times. But I think if they are worth keeping around you will always make the effort. It's just a shame that sometimes an event can completely change how someone is. Marriage, a new job, a child. Anything really.