Serious I need to get off my ass but I don't know what to do.

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Since summer began, I clearly noticed how much time I spend playing videogames. It's not healthy, and I'm getting sick of it. I recognize it.

I WANT to do something, at least go out and get some fresh air and stretch my legs... but I have no motivation to. It's not that I'm lazy, because I WANT to go out and get some exercise, etc, etc... but I'm not sure what I would do. I live in this really boring town and you could almost consider this area where I live as 'not-very-attractive Suburbs'. The most exciting thing nearby is a gas station that's a 15-20 minute walk away, and the only reason why I'd go there is to get some Subway sandwiches. (Which I haven't been in the mood for lately.)

Plus, all my friends are either busy visiting relatives or out somewhere, and currently my best male friend is on his period or something and refuses to come over when I ask politely roughly once a week D':

So I'm pretty much alone. I do go on walks for a good 20 minutes every day, but it's freaking hot out, and since I'm alone, I end up thinking about a bunch of stuff while walking and it makes me anxious and depressed. It's like my mind can't be left unoccupied without burrowing itself into stress.

So in short, I HAVE NOTHING TO DO but play videogames or sit in my house and do something. If I had a treadmill in my house (or could afford one) I would be just sprinting on that thing like a mofo as I listen to some music blasting in my house. It's cooler in here. I need an excuse to get out, but can't find one. I was interested in a part time job, but there is no one hiring around where I live (and the lack of places to work makes it even more ridiculous).

WHAT THE HELL SHOULD I DO?
 
Well.. Currently Im suffering from the same issue. Oh well I dont think anyone can tell you what to do, I tried that road before. The suggestions always bore me even when I try them and I end up stuck in the same situation all over again. Sometimes when some relatives ask me to spend the weekend I always accept because its something different. I guess what people like us need to do is perhaps do some kind of sport, enter the gym . I dont know..
 
I'd totally go for a gym membership if I actually had one NEARBY.

Damn.
 
what? its summer go enjoy the best time of the year! work out, learn to play an instrument, get a job, socialise.. do something don't just waste your life away.
 
I know exactly how you feel, man. I'm in the exact same boat. The bitch of it is, I have a pool and a bike and lots of country to ride in but, like you said, it's hot out and swimming alone is like drinking alone -- pathetic and not fun. Also, I'm forbidden to bike alone because a sexual predator moved into town about 3 miles away. So dude. I know exactly how you feel and I don't have the answer either.

The best I can tell you is to maybe look at doing exercises in your house. Calisthenics and the like, anything to get moving. It's what I do.

Either that, or get dance lessons? Those are quite a workout.
 
If you wont run outside you wont last long on a treadmill. Besides that defeats the point of you wanting to get out.

Like what was said. get a job and earn some money. If you have a job and money then the world opens up to you. Cant get anywhere without it im afraid. If you have the cash you can move out of your little town to somewhere else. Ive had a similar argument with someone before. Simply put. Stop thinking about doing something and actually get out there, and do it.
 
I practice piano regularly and I'm currently learning new songs. But did you read my post? My friends are out, and there are no jobs available... I don't need to repeat myself. The treadmill indoors would be nice because I could still multitask and wouldn't have to deal with the incredibly hot weather, and I could preoccupy my rampant mind.

Also, I can't drive yet. It's pretty limiting.
 
make more friends. cant have too many friends (except when its christmas!). jump on a course or get a job that allows you to move to a more vibrant area. but first of all stop victimising yourself. victims stagnate.
 
It just didn't seem to me like you read about WHY I can't get a job around here.

I love my friends, and the ones that live nearby that I hang out with as often as possible are coincidentally busy all at the same time for now, and the ones I'd love to hang out with are like a 30 minute drive from my house D:

I might make a plan to walk 45 minutes to the only transit bus stop nearby and meet one of my more distant friends. Unfortunately it's not something I can do everyday, but it's a good idea, I say.
 
thats exactly it, forget gettin a job where you are get a job somewhere else in order to move to a better place. if you can't do that then study something to move somewhere else. keep trying dont let a lack of opportunity be an excuse to be a waster.
 
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Look, nowadays economy sucks, you can't a job and all of your friends are busy. That's most likely the same story that thousands of people are living right now. Sometimes life will suck, and at such times you'll feel you've hit the bottom of boredom. Your big first step would be to reduce the amount of time you spend playing video games for a while. You mentioned you've been walking so what about going social-hunting? Meet new people, be a volunteer for community service (community service works wonders on resumes), if your best friend won't come along then you go to him, read a book, learn a new language or find something to keep your mind busy other than spending your time in the video wonderland. By the looks of it, you are kinda getting tired of video games as well...

Believe me, we all know that there's nothing that sucks more than staying in boredomland at home. So I started volunteering for community service or helping the neighbors. If it's hot, oh well you can't do anything about it, but I tell you it can't be hotter than my place. Humidity + sun is a bad combination. >_>

Oh well, as I said best bet would be working as a volunteer somewhere. Hey, everybody loves volunteers. xD
 
Man I hate reading threads like this :hmph:
You are being lazy. Just because you WANT to do something doesn't mean you're not lazy if you haven't gotten off your arse to do it. You are lazy.

I don't believe that jobs are so hard to find. Why don't you go into a store and vollunteer to do some work experience, they wont pay you but at least then you'll have something to put on your resume so people will actually WANT to hire you. Why don't you do a small course in something? There that is something else to put on your resume. You can even find free courses for people with not a lot of money. It's not that hard. Look online or in the paper.

You can even meet friends at work/work experience.

The thing about your friend not hanging out coz of her period is bullshit btw haha, periods don't last for weeks. They last for just over 1 week max.

Find a hobby. What do you like doing? If you have a sport you enjoy, join a club? If you like going for walks, then go for a walk. LMFAO warm weather is the best time to get out of the house. The sun gives you so much energy, everything just seems so great when it's summer! Do not use "waaah it's too hot' as an excuse not to go out, because that's utter crapola.

All you need to do is try and you can easily fix the problems you're having. If you're really sick of being in the house you will change your ways.

Good luck I guess.
 
Learn a hobby! Go get something and learn how to use it. Like...rollerblades :grin: Omg they are so fun and you can go on them for hours!

Or learn a skill. My friend was a bit of a lazy bum, so she learned how to unicycle. She bought one online and after 2 weeks she could ride it. Now she has learned how to juggle and she comes over all the time to show me tricks :damon: She actually goes out busking and makes a lot of money.

What I'm saying is, go out and get something and use it and develop your skill. In the end you will be very happy. And it takes up a lot of your time! :grin: If it's hot idk go swimming.

I think Toni basically summed everything up, you need to just push yourself and do something.
 
Saying you dont believe it's hard to find a job and actually being able to find one are two different things. While I think that is BS, I do agree with your philosophy of getting yourself out there, even if you volunteer. Having a go at it attitude truthfully will help you.

I just recently got finished school, passed my board exams, got a job in another state, and moved out of my parents house. I didnt live a sheltered life but I had my parents always fixing my clothes and meals for me. Granted I worked ever since I was 17 and bought everything on my own (or at least 90 percent of it) due to my parents not having much money. So my life has changed drastically. To get my job, I sent out emails every month to district managers, went into places to meet managers or other workers personally to hand in my resume, went to job fairs, etc and it paid off. I got a job with the company that was at the top of my list.

About the lazy thing and exercising. I hear you on that. Ive put on a little weight. You cant tell without me showing but most is in my stomach and thighs. Im going to join the Y (YMCA). It's about $47 a month and they have a ton of equipment. If you really want to get in shape, find somewhere to swim laps. Swimming is honestly one of the best exercises for cardiovascular support and also for muscle development. Plus your body will burn calories a ton after working out due to it being full body. Just use the time to swim as many laps as you can: Dont count, dont even think, just swim. It will give your mind a rest and you will start to get into better shape. I'm bad at exercising, I find it boring, but all it takes is to summon up the will power.

I do wish you luck though Gabe.
 
Thanks for all the ideas. It's pretty inspirational. Man, I wish I lived in the city...

About my friend being on their period... He's male, and he's on his period because he's been having a pissy mood lately, and somehow feels offense when I ask him to come over, so F him for now until his man-period subsides...

I've been given the task to water a lady's plants every night for $20 a week (a puretty gewd deal if you ask me) because one of my close friends does some helping out around the house for her, and managed to promote me for this job. So that's a great start, and I'm guessing if I do a good job, I could add this lady as a reference on a resume.

Also, I hate swimming for multiple reasons, but I guess when I'm really feeling down, I'll just deal with it and dive into a pool fully clothed. :)
 
Oh lmfao I didn't read properly, I just saw period and assumed it was a chick.
 
Gabe said:
Thanks for all the ideas. It's pretty inspirational. Man, I wish I lived in the city...

About my friend being on their period... He's male, and he's on his period because he's been having a pissy mood lately, and somehow feels offense when I ask him to come over, so F him for now until his man-period subsides...

I've been given the task to water a lady's plants every night for $20 a week (a puretty gewd deal if you ask me) because one of my close friends does some helping out around the house for her, and managed to promote me for this job. So that's a great start, and I'm guessing if I do a good job, I could add this lady as a reference on a resume.

Also, I hate swimming for multiple reasons, but I guess when I'm really feeling down, I'll just deal with it and dive into a pool fully clothed. :)
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Yeah, $20 a week is better than nothing at all. Plus like you said, you could possibly use them as a reference. Always ask for them to be a reference and dont just put them on a resume.

Trust me, Im self conscious about swimming too. I'm more hairy than I would like. Nothing a shaver doesnt fix though, but either way, I still will be. But then I think, who cares. Im here to get in shape and feel better, not impress anyone else.
 
You cant just say ''theres no jobs'' because there are. Thats usually an excuse lazy people say. Im not saying your lazy but a friend of mine said the exact same thing and he was lying. He just didnt bother his lazy ass to go out and really try and find a job. Looking online isnt always enough. Gotta go out there and speak to employers, hand out CVs to everyone etc. But if you do actually try and i do mean go out there and put in effort youl find its pretty easy. Ive been in this situation a few times, trust me i know. Might mean you have to travel a bit by bus everyday but wages = driving lessons and a car will give you more freedom than you could imagine. Also going out and doing job hunting is getting you out the 4 walls of your house, which is what you say you want. I guarantee as well because you spend your day looking for a job youl go to sleep feeling a lot more fulfilled. You can say, hey, i actually did something good today. Il get back to it tomorrow.

I did read your post and i think your making things out to be way more tragic for you than they are. Im kinda comparing my predicament atm to yours and i think yours is very underwhelming in comparison but i understand why your so bothered by it, i really do. I understand because ive been there myself. Granted i dont live in a small town but i work with many people who drive +80 miles a day from the tiny village they live in to get to work. It has to be done. Being able to say that you wanna change things is a good start but you gotta take the next step and make big effort to get something rolling.

A job is sadly the most important thing in life when it comes to having your shit in order. You need money to go out and do things, enjoy yourself etc and have a good time (down the pub). Man if i was unemployed, which i have been in the past i get down in the dumps. I did what your doing when my money ran out. Stayed in, played games, played guitar and watched films. Thats no life at all. That bored the teeth off me after 5 weeks of unemployment then i got another job thankfully.

Working is the key to sorting your problems.
 
I know this is an old thread but I thought I would add my opinion :)

I have been in the same situation where I was bored, thought I had nothing to do etc.

One thing that helped me was thinking what my dream life be... from work, to how I look, dressed, exercised, ate, where I lived, what skills I had, what my house looked like... everything to the last detail, I got a very clear idea of what I wanted and I made it so compelling and amazing that I simply wanted it NOW and started taking action towards it. It helped me so it might help you in not being bored anymore.
 
Are we talking about getting active hobbies (I know nothing about it), or exercising?
If exercise: who says you need to go out to exercise? And who says you need a treadmill? I've been working out indoors for most of my life. Just swath a path in any given portion of garbage in your house, and do some push-ups.
Sit ups, before considered impossible without a hulking guy holding your feet down is now a breeze. All you need is a stable bar levitating about two inches above the ground. Yes, I suppose a piece of furniture could suffice. Just shove your toes under there and resume your workout.
Don't forget stretching first, either. I got more tips, if you're interested. :)
 
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