How do you deal with liars, backstabbers and rumor spreaders?

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For some reason I seem to get into a lot of fights over people trying to backstab or spread rumors about me.

Even my own family is well known for telling ridiculous lies about me and making up stories to ruin my good name.

In a sense, maybe I can see that karma does have an effect on the world.

People who have fabricated stories about me or tried to mess with me in other ways have had some negative things happen to them.

One guy had his hand impaled by a piece of lumber that required surgery to remove the splinters and months of rehab. In another case, another person had a pinched nerve in their back that put them out of commission for awhile. Another person quit their job. I heard they were saying nasty things about me & told them if they had a problem we should go outside and settle it. They backed down & I guess maybe were a bit humiliated so they left to work somewhere else.

Another had their working days cut back to 1 day a week - the one day of the week I wasn't working due to the friction between us, which everyone knew he was the cause of.

Its events like these & many others like them that cause me to believe there is some type of self-correcting force in the universe that repays evildoers for their sins.

But, then, there's also a confrontational means of dealing with it, as below. :ohshit:

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Anyway, gentle forum goers....

How do you deal with this type of thing?

And what types of success or failure have you had?

:ewan:
 

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Ive worked with quite a few people in my time who are just gossipers and shit stirrers. People like that do it often enough that everyone knows who they are and what theyre like. Just stay clear of them, why bother your time with them.

If you wanna eat at them though find something that really annoys them and spam it.
 

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Ive worked with quite a few people in my time who are just gossipers and shit stirrers. People like that do it often enough that everyone knows who they are and what theyre like. Just stay clear of them, why bother your time with them.

If you wanna eat at them though find something that really annoys them and spam it.
Well, let me be more specific.

In one case, some of my co-workers came back from lunch and one of them had a ketchup packet wound up tight. He threw it at me in the hopes that it would explode and shower me with ketchup.

It didn't, but I was still upset. I went to my boss and told him if he didn't do anything I was going to beat the shit out of the person who threw ketchup at me.

My boss told the person to apologize in front of everyone & they did. I told them to their face if they did it again, I would knock them the fk out. They quit a few weeks later.

That's a pretty mild case but that's pretty much how it is, everytime. People cross the line & suddenly it feels like there's nothing better on this earth than beating the living daylights out of them.

If you let people throw ketchup at you and similar things it'll escalate. Eventually, they'll make you their bitch if you let them walk all over you.

Whenever its feasible for me, I end it quickly whenever possible.

I just don't get why people are so dumb as to think they can get away with it.

Around 2008-2009 I got into maybe 4-5 fights in around 12 months over this type of thing.

I just don't get it....
 

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i once got told

If someone tries to bully you hit them. Hit them straight away. Even if they get the better of you the next time theyre looking for someone to pick on theyre not gunna go for the person whos gunna take a swing at them straight away.
 

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I'm surprised that this is in spam and not a discussion forum. It's being taken seriously, etc.
Let me know if you want it moved if you do not want it to remain as spam (I'm mentioning this only in case it was a mistake to place it here, or if there was a reason for it being here).


As for me, I can't recall many instances where I've dealt with people stabbing me in the back, so to speak. I mean, it would depend what that means. I typically do not get too close with people, so therefore it is not a betrayal of any kind when people do me wrong.

However some of my friends have done me wrong before. I don't keep a list. It's never been anything serious or dramatic, or at least I've not let it escalate that far by reacting. I don't tend to do anything about it. I'm more passive in that sense. It doesn't lead to any trouble, but it doesn't help you either, I guess.

I've always been open to being used and abused by different people, but that's just the lot I take. I don't let people get too close for that to be a serious problem. Despite being a descendant of Heracles, I'm not a caveman or a gorilla. I'm not going to bonk someone on the head just for being an idiot. :argor:
 

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The way you talk to people probably rubs them the wrong way. You talk like you're better than everyone and are smarter and more logical than anyone and everyone.

Always on about how you could beat anyone in a fight or a debate blah blah.

That could be contributing to it.
 

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Nothing like this has ever happened to me, mainly because I am the epitome of a stellar and deified human being. No one has ever back stabbed me, and I have never heard any rumours or outrageous lies about me

I was chatting with a pal about something similar enough today though, involving some big guy when they were about thirteen throwing his weight around. He'd mess around throwing dick shots, but no one ever really said anything, just took the pain or whatever. My pal made sure that every time it happened to him he hit the guy as hard as he could in the temple, even if it took him a few minutes to recover and go find him. The dick punches stopped pretty quickly

So I guess confronting the problem head on and letting someone know you will not take their shit works. Or maybe not, I don't really know
 

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Nothing, Im just dreaming aboutt he Audi that will never be :sad3:
 

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Il cut holes in the bottom so you can drive it like the flintstones.
 

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how would i stop with roller skates?!

And theres nothing wrong with my heels lewis! beauty and pain go hand in hand!
 
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