Okay, I've been thinking about this (Leki seems to be thinking alot this day, eh?), and have been having conversations with mah dad. Topic is changing people to make them suit you and your needs.
Such as, you seeing as their traits are bad, or not... quite your style, and try to get them to do something. Like being healthy. You get married, and you try to get your spouse to start jogging, eating healthy, et cetera, but they just don't care. Is it that important to push them to do such things?
There are actually alot of couples who say, 'Okay... I love this person . So I'm gonna get this person, even though they aren't ALL how I want them to be, and I'm gonna... train 'em. Get 'em to do what I want.' I see that alot, in many couples young and old. They use soooo much energy on 'training' their spouse and 'grooming' out bad habits.
I mean, if your gonna get with someone, they should love you for who you are, and vice versa... but if you still want to be with them, and they still have 'bad traits'.
Such as, you seeing as their traits are bad, or not... quite your style, and try to get them to do something. Like being healthy. You get married, and you try to get your spouse to start jogging, eating healthy, et cetera, but they just don't care. Is it that important to push them to do such things?
There are actually alot of couples who say, 'Okay... I love this person . So I'm gonna get this person, even though they aren't ALL how I want them to be, and I'm gonna... train 'em. Get 'em to do what I want.' I see that alot, in many couples young and old. They use soooo much energy on 'training' their spouse and 'grooming' out bad habits.
I mean, if your gonna get with someone, they should love you for who you are, and vice versa... but if you still want to be with them, and they still have 'bad traits'.