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Has anyone ever had that best friend who is all awesome to your face but as soon as someone 'cooler' comes along they act like a total bitch to you?

My sister (Nikki) has a friend like this at the moment.
The Best friend invited Nikki to coffee with her and another friend, so my sister rocks up and the best friend got a table for two with this other girl. Nikki was like wtf... and they completely ignored her :S

So nikki grabs a coffee to go and leaves, does some shopping then goes to the car and the best friend and other girl are walking right behind her, chatting to themselves and ignoring her.

I think I was this bitch back in school, I'd constantly swap between two best friends when one was cooler than the other :(

Have you ever had a friend like this? Or were you this friend?
 
I had this happen to me once!!!

I was in year 8 or 9 and I had this best friend from my old school. I had to go to a different high school and so we only saw each other on weekends and such.

Anyway, she obviously made another 'best friend' during this time and didn't have the time for me anymore, yet she still invited me to her birthday party.

I only realised the full extent of her 'wanting me out of her life because she had a better best friend now' attitude on the actual day of her 'party'.

It was just me, my 'best friend' and her new best friend.

We went horseriding and the whole time Allison just ignored me like a bitch. Didn't even talk to me.

Why the hell would you invite me if I was that much of an inconvenience!?

Why make my day awkward with no one to talk to! I couldn't just leave! I had to wait for my mum to come get me at the end of the day. :sad3:

Allison's mum noticed and says, 'Oh it's hard with two friends.'

I'm thinking, 'Well yeah if you wanna be like her it is. It isn't all that hard to have two friends at all!' I didn't care if I wasn't 'the best friend' anymore. As long as I was a friend. But she totally ruined that friendship with her attitude that day.

I don't know why her mum didn't even try to say, 'Um Allison, you know you can talk to Kandy too? You invited her out to spend the day with her? STOP BEING RUDE!!!'

Never spoke to her again. =/
 
Nah ive never had this happen to me. I know a guy who was like that though. Hed use people for whatever they had at the time. So if you drove a car hed be phoning you up asking if your goin for a drive etc, stuff like that.
Most of my friends ive been mates with for a loooong time now and theyre nothing like that at all. I consider myself a good judge of character for the most part aswell, at least good enough to know when someones a using bastard.
The guy who i mentioned before i spoke to him as we lived on the same street for a while and we went to school together but i never became close mates with him because i knew well what he was like. Funny thing is to this day i dont think he has any solid friends. He just drifts from person to person. Everyone wises up and clicks on that hes a using bastard and ignores him. Then he moves onto the next person. Pretty shit way to go about treating people. Hes just ended up a loner.
 
some people use the definition of the term "friend" so loosely

Offline, I personally have like 3 friends. I've known two of them since I was just a child and met the other one in high school. We're not like group of people off the TV who meet up every week and do stuff together or anything... But loyalty and respect.

If you don't have that, you're really no friend of mine.

I've actually gotten into fights with people who have thought that we were friends.

I'm pretty sure though that at least one of my friends has been on both the giving and receiving end of this particular event, however short lived it may have been on my side.

We're all almost 21 now, one of them is going to be 18 soon. I guess since High School blew over everyone grew up a little bit.
 
Yeah, know what you mean. But I guess, whatever they want to do is up to them.

I can't really explain it myself. Maybe I've been that person before, or maybe I haven't, but either way, I can't explain it.
 
I've had this happen to me before.

It's like they're all with you up until they get the chance at something better, then they ditch you for it. Of course, if I'm perfectly honest, I've been this person before too. Back in school, I ditched several people when better chances came along. Part of survival, there was nothing heartless.

Though my high school was sorta ditch or be ditched in terms of friends. Everyone had been friends at some point by the end. Guess it's part of the whole small town atmosphere.
 
Hm... I might have done something like this before! LOL.

Maybe it's happened with me too? But I think I was that 'cooler' someone >.>

So in my last two years of Secondary School, which apparently is High School elsewhere, I was at a camp which aimed to bond the classmates together. There were these pair in my class that were clearly friends since their first two years in the school. No doubt, I had to socialise, or die trying right?!

So I talked to those two and kinda joined their clique. After that, those two didn't hang out as often. >.> Suppose this scenario might have played out after all. I'm still in contact with those two, but they might not be with one another.
 
About three years ago, one of my friends at college would often invite me over to his house to play some Resident Evil or to go and watch a movie. This worked out rather well, as at the time we both didn't really know many people who were into the same genre of games/movies as we were.

Yet when a girl got involved, things got nasty. She wasn't my type and I had no intention of hitting on her because I knew my friend had a thing for her. At the same time, however, my 'friend' would constantly make jokes at my expense or just ignore me whilst trying to impress her.

When they became a couple I was thrilled for them. Yet whenever I saw them at college they'd both ignore me (and the rest of their supposed friends). This went on for quite some time, until it pretty much became a case of them hanging out with me and friends whenever we were on our lunch break, but refusing to talk to us. It was weird.
 
I've had this happen to me. By which I mean most of the people I've been friends with have done this to me. It's kinda why I don't really bother trying to get attached to people. Makes me feel kinda like I'm just a fucking toy and they do away with me whenever they get bored. There always someone better, I suppose.

Then again, I don't have very good friends to begin with. I can actually count a good number of time they didn't call me to get hang out when they were all getting together. They'd claim that they'd all tried to reach me despite the fact that I had zero missed calls or that they "forgot", because whenever you have a huge get together with ALL your friends, it's pretty typical to forget the person you tend to hang out with the most. I remember one time, one of my "friends" told all my other friends that I was busy just because one of them had gotten a new video game and he didn't want to take the chance that if I had come over that he'd have to share it with me. And then everyone just pretends like they did nothing wrong. True pals, am I right? :dave:

But I'm whining and getting off topic. But, yeah. This happens to me quite often. Again, it's why I don't get too attached to anyone.
 
I think I may have done something like that before, back when I was younger(fourteen I think) my best friend of two years was really getting on my nerves. After a while I was constantly annoyed and angry with him, till I started to intensely dislike him. I acted like kind of a dick to him for a few months. Though we resolved that after a few months(no idea how), it was nearly six years ago now and we're still best friends

Also, I did hang out and become great friends with a girl in college last year then this year decided I didn't really like her anymore and stopped talking/hanging out with her

Then maybe a month ago, a girl I shifted and put off having sex with, started chatting to me a lot on FB(as we had a week off from college after I first met and shifted her). Anyways I opened up a lot to her, and she did with me too. Then as the week ended I decided I didn't like her anymore, and stopped talking to her too effectively

No one has ever done this to me though, but there are some guys I know who are pretty cool normally. Then when their 'mates' are around they can be dicks, none of my actual friends are like that though.


edit: Wow, I'm a bit of a bastard to people
 
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I hanged out with a lot of people before, to be quite honest. I'm not one to be attached to people as friends, though, I don't think I've ever made anyone I've been "friends" with, upset. I keep in contact with almost all people I know, unless they like starts acting all high and mighty with me (like "You only contact me because I'm your only friend"), no idiot, I don't give a fuck about you, I just believe if you became something in the future, I'll be able to use you for my own good. I'm a bad person, I know but aren't we all? :mokken:
 
Nope, I'm lucky to have never had a friend like that.

But...then again, I haven't had many friends. Quality over quantity as far as friends are concerned. Aside from my family and girlfriend, I'd say I only have two or so friends.

Oh! But I've had a friend worse than one who treats you like crap when someone "better" comes around. He lied to me about having cancer, tried to cause me to believe I was worsening his cancer and shortening his life, then told me I could cure him by "getting physical" with him. Yeah, he turned out to be gay. Pretty messed up, right? Naturally, I told him to screw himself.
 
This has happened to me twice.

The first friend was more like my sister. I met her when I was 9 and she was 6. Her grandmother and mother both looked after me a lot because my parents worked long hours, most weeks of the year. My school had 4 week holidays in the winter and at Easter, and 11 week holidays in the summer. :wacky: We were quite close and spent most of our time together. Neither of us had many friends at school, so we supported one another too.

When she was about 11, she moved house. At the same time, she became kinda ill and conseuquently lost a lot of weight. Suddenly, she was the centre of attention at school. Everyone started to compliment her and everyone wanted to talk to her. As soon as this happened, she stopped treating me like an equal friend. Instead, I was almost a sad case. She stopped talking to me as often, and when we did meet very occasionally, invited friends from school and called me the wrong name. Oh well. :wacky:
 
Ahh yeah. I've had this happen a lot to me. We get along just fine for months, then all of a sudden, some new dude comes into class with Pokemon cards. Then I never see the guy I thought was my friend again.

I've seen it plenty of times before. It's broke my heart plenty of times. Luckily, it hasn't happened to me since 2011. My heart is getting a break.

I'm surprised I don't hate humans more than I already do. :hmmm:
 
:mitsuru: If Ashley even thinks about doing somethin like to me I swear Ill be behind bars cause Im gonna kill the person she left me for than do the same to ashley but make her suffer first....I wish she would try this -_-

lucky for me she's been my best friend before we even learned how to speak when we where still infants (my parents where good friends with her parents who stayed pretty close so according to them we played together alot growing up and learning stuff). Nothing like that could come between the bonds me and her share.
 
I sorta did this when I was in primary school and moved on up to comp, leaving a few mates in the year below behind, so that I could hang with new friends. Regretted it ever since...
Until lately that is, 'cause now I barely think about them...it's been like a decade or something and so much has happened, so it's only natural to move on :hmmm:

EDIT: I was never horrible to them or anything...just never got in touch with them and sort of brushed them off too often. Maybe that adds up to the same thing? :hmmm:
 
i must be lucky because this has never happened to me ;o i would never do it to any one else either. but then i only have two people i really consider friends. and they are twins. identical twins. like shadowstar milla my parents said we were friends when we were babys. i do not remember it but it makes since. of course my sister is my best friend but i am not sure if she counts. if we were not friends... some thing would be wrong :x
 
I had this friend in middle school, who was the new girl. The bus was full, and I let her sit next to me.

We used to be best friends in 6th grade. Her name was Madaline. I remember talking everyday at the bus stop and I'd go to her house and we danced and had a fun time being together.

Once a few weeks, maybe a month or so went by, she made new friends. She started distancing herself from me, because I didn't fit in with her new groupies. I was a loner at school, and she was one of my good friends. It hurt. We would now only talk on the bus and even then, it wasn't quite the same as it used to be.

Her living close to me, she'd hang out with my neighbor's. Rumors began to fly around claiming that she lost her virginity and that she was a slut. Even my sister started saying that. I defended her, and that was the only time she saw how loyal of a friend I could be. She then only paid me attention whenever all of her "other friends" started judging her and being mean.

I was still there for her up until 7th grade. After the whole drama went down and nobody was talking about it, she dropped me again. After that, I was done with her bs.
 
When I was younger, I used to be a little like this. But, generally, I try to integrate both "groups" of friends so that they get to know each other and/so no one is left out. Instead of "cool", it's more like "closer friends" vs. "aquaintance/someone you just met or know platonic-ally". I don't like the idea of anyone being left out because it's rude and because, from my own experience(s), I know how it feels like to be discluded or left alone and it doesn't feel good. So, definitely don't want anyone feeling that way.

One of the situations in which I was ditched was in middle school. My best friend at the time became more outgoing and...stylish or...pretti(er?) you could say, and so a lot of people started flocking toward her, including boys. I was still the quiet, awkward one, so was left out of this new growth spurt. She never spoke to me about it; we just grew a part. We went to the same high school, too, and it was just awkward between us. I felt like I got disappointed, time and time again as she made small get togethers here and there but it never felt...like they were real/gonna last. I gave up trying, but inside I still felt attached. We went to the same college, too, LMAO, and there I got disappointed yet again, but now after a few meets, we've managed to finally be a bit consistent. Granted, I trust her fully, so I value her a lot in my life, which is why I think I've been a little passive about it.

Then there was someone who I think only talked to me out of convenience when I was around them a lot and they didn't have anyone else. She would invite me over to her group of friends when she saw me, and I'm sure she would now, but to get together and do something private together like shopping or even just meeting up to talk, I wouldn't get a call and she had my number. I enjoyed her company and felt like we had grown close, but from the feeling I got from her, I never forgot inside of myself that maybe this was just more of a relationship of convenience. Or...I don't know. Maybe she just thought I didn't want to be close(r), but I feel like if she did, she would've done extra to show it.

This might sound too patient, but I understand. If I had been in my best friends shoes, would I have kept her around if I suddenly became the more attractive one? And everyone has someone they cling onto or stick to when their friends aren't around in a certain situation. I'm just trying to be more understanding of people, because it ain't like I'm not human and have never done similar things. I think everyone goes through this, where they are ditched or they are the ones who choose to ditch. It happens. But of course, after a certain amount of disappointments and what the situation is, certain people just need to be let go of, be it from your life or theirs.
 
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