How do you feel about adoption?
I ask because I have heard both horror and success stories about this. The success stories are sweet when a child gets a loving home. And of course, the horror stories are awful where a child is either mentally unstable, or the parents end up being abusive. (Though that is more common for foster parents)
I think adoption should be encouraged more for mothers who do not want to have their unborn children. I only say this, because a friend's older sister is trying to adopt and they said that it might be as long as six years before she gets a baby. (They want a baby because older children are more likely to have emotional problems) Now, I'm not some crazy pro lifer by any means, but it seems like the only choices give to women that end up with unplanned pregnancies are either to have the child and raise it themselves, or abort it.
Though I also think that the adopting parents should be required to pay for the mother's medical bills because going through with the pregnancy can be a real burden on the mother. Also, when the baby is born, if there is something wrong with it, the adopting parents should not be able to step out. The baby should be their responsibility and it they do not want a child with special needs, then they need to make arrangements for it to go to another parent. And along that, once the birth mother gives up her baby, she should not be allowed to suddenly decide that she wants it back and retake custody of the child when it's like three years old. That's unfair to the child who has only know his or her adopted parents.
My sister also recently adopted a little girl from the Ukrain. The girl was from a deaf orphanage and only had about 10% hearing in each ear. They were able to get her hearing aids and now she can her at about 90%. THe girl was abandoned when she was four by her parents who were gypsies and alcholics, but despite all this, she is very sweet and has a very loving personality .
I ask because I have heard both horror and success stories about this. The success stories are sweet when a child gets a loving home. And of course, the horror stories are awful where a child is either mentally unstable, or the parents end up being abusive. (Though that is more common for foster parents)
I think adoption should be encouraged more for mothers who do not want to have their unborn children. I only say this, because a friend's older sister is trying to adopt and they said that it might be as long as six years before she gets a baby. (They want a baby because older children are more likely to have emotional problems) Now, I'm not some crazy pro lifer by any means, but it seems like the only choices give to women that end up with unplanned pregnancies are either to have the child and raise it themselves, or abort it.
Though I also think that the adopting parents should be required to pay for the mother's medical bills because going through with the pregnancy can be a real burden on the mother. Also, when the baby is born, if there is something wrong with it, the adopting parents should not be able to step out. The baby should be their responsibility and it they do not want a child with special needs, then they need to make arrangements for it to go to another parent. And along that, once the birth mother gives up her baby, she should not be allowed to suddenly decide that she wants it back and retake custody of the child when it's like three years old. That's unfair to the child who has only know his or her adopted parents.
My sister also recently adopted a little girl from the Ukrain. The girl was from a deaf orphanage and only had about 10% hearing in each ear. They were able to get her hearing aids and now she can her at about 90%. THe girl was abandoned when she was four by her parents who were gypsies and alcholics, but despite all this, she is very sweet and has a very loving personality .