What is self sexual attraction?

April 27, 2008, 12:06 AM

"This is another topic very hard to begin. I am not sure how to present it.
When you look in the mirror, and you are sexually attracted
. Not because you want to be in bed with yourself
but because you are a sexual stimulus for yourself due to association of sexual attributes , qualities. You are an object to role play desires, sexual fantasy ,so in actual fact you can sincerely turn yourself on by yourself.

Maybe, I will continue to ask the question.

HOLD UP THOUGH, self is of mind and body. So in this case, I do not mean wanting to be in bed with yourself rather associating sexual fantasys with women or men whatever you are into with your physical presence. The idea of self love in the mirror but it is sincere always because their is always a woman in mind. Unless of course you are totally in love with yourself and want to do yourself, but I do not know if that is possible to be like that without the association of women sexual intervention.

If that is the case if someone wanted to smurf theirselves, would that make them gay? Anyways that is a side topic, not the main topic.

When you look in the mirror you see yourself in a certain way, and when you look at a pair of clothes you associate with them in your mind a certain way that you will be seen. So in effect your own image can turn you on sexually in a sincere way. Perhaps more easily seen with clothes or without any at all

For women for example, high heals , tight dresses, skimpy underwear are all logically things that can turn you on . When you indenitfy with these items, you can allow them to compliment your features, and to appear sexual to man or woman. In the end they can very well turn you on because of the idea of sexual intervention, interaction.

The catalyst , stimulus of sexual intervention, interaction can be identified, and also realized, appreciated. Does that make you a narcissism individual if you identify and realize your physical sexual potential , and if say your body's 6 pack turns you on?

We are not talking about extremes here either, this is the plate and everything on it, so be reasonable."

April 27, 2008, 12:12 AM

It's narcissism, that's all.

It's being in love with yourself, it's not deep, it's the opposite, shallow and superficial.

When a man or a woman works out, they do it to make themselves more attractive to the opposite sex, not to themselves. They do have some notion of what is sexually attractive. However that doesn't mean they lust after themselves.

April 27, 2008, 12:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Iago

It's narcissism, that's all.

It's being in love with yourself, it's not deep, it's the opposite, shallow and superficial.

When a man or a woman works out, they do it to make themselves more attractive to the opposite sex, not to themselves. They do have some notion of what is sexually attractive. However that doesn't mean they lust after themselves.

I'm going to agree with this. Narcissism sums up that whole blab of yours.

April 27, 2008, 1:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Iago

It's narcissism, that's all.

It's being in love with yourself, it's not deep, it's the opposite, shallow and superficial.

When a man or a woman works out, they do it to make themselves more attractive to the opposite sex, not to themselves. They do have some notion of what is sexually attractive. However that doesn't mean they lust after themselves.

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Originally Posted by Xeno

I'm going to agree with this. Narcissism sums up that whole blab of yours.

Not at all learning to appreciate ones body, value it , and take it seriously discover it as a sexual stimulus is by far something so simple or shallow. Everyone may be sexually driiven a tad by their own attributes, their pyshcical qualities, characterisitcs , biological and non mentally influence a person in their sexuality.

To suggest this is babble, or just self love without any sincereity is closed minded, and unexplored. Its bias to a person, people can love their bodies, be turned on by their bodies without being high on theirselves.

April 27, 2008, 1:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Korytco

Not at all learning to appreciate ones body, value it , and take it seriously discover it as a sexual stimulus is by far something so simple or shallow. Everyone may be sexually driiven a tad by their own attributes, their pyshcical qualities, characterisitcs , biological and non mentally influence a person in their sexuality.

To suggest this is babble, or just self love without any sincereity is closed minded, and unexplored. Its bias to a person, people can love their bodies, be turned on by their bodies without being high on theirselves.

Appreciating one's SELF and appreciating one's BODY are two separate things. You're implying that one gets some sort of erotic joy from their own body, which is narcissism.

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nar·cis·sism

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1.inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity.

2.Psychoanalysis. erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development.

I even put the definition in bold so you would have an easy time finding it. You can appreciate your body, and have CONFIDENCE, but the minute that you begin to get sexually aroused because of it, that's it moves from confidence to a narcissistic characteristic.

April 27, 2008, 1:16 AM

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Originally Posted by Xeno

Appreciating one's SELF and appreciating one's BODY are two separate things. You're implying that one gets some sort of erotic joy from their own body, which is narcissism.

I even put the definition in bold so you would have an easy time finding it. You can appreciate your body, and have CONFIDENCE, but the minute that you begin to get sexually aroused because of it, that's it moves from confidence to a narcissistic characteristic.

That is limited, narrowed, Perhaps I have lived my whole life before unnappreciated, un loved and that I believe women find a bigger body sexual . So when I look in the mirror I feel a sexual stimulus. That does not mean that I am high on myself it means that I am proud , and just a normal person, titles like a narcisstic, and over thought out labels are un-necessary because I can describe myself in a perfectly normal way if I was that person. The same goes for females dressing to fit their figures and being turned on by dresses, high heals and earning to be loved.

To fill as if I have reached a certain status in my life,and to be proud of myself and identify my physical attributes with sexual wants, needs should not earn me some crude elementary terminology, generalization, that is shallow.

I am part of my body and its all part of self sorry to let you down there. A discliplined body is a disclplined life style and vise versia to a non discliplined body.

The defintion is crude, everyone has some degree of sexual reserve from their own physical attributes.

EVen if you can define it that does not mean that is is some sort of element or plaque or necessarily a negative attribute, no one said it was obsessed but I think it is in everyone to a degree.

April 27, 2008, 1:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Korytco

Not at all learning to appreciate ones body, value it , and take it seriously discover it as a sexual stimulus is by far something so simple or shallow. Everyone may be sexually driiven a tad by their own attributes, their pyshcical qualities, characterisitcs , biological and non mentally influence a person in their sexuality.

It's a fact(lulz) that men with more femine facial features are subconciously thought to be better at raising children by women. Which makes them regard them as suitable partners.
I'm sure the something similar applies to men, so it's not only women who think that way.
That can be their own physical attributes, but displayed on another person. That is a big difference.

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To suggest this is babble, or just self love without any sincereity is closed minded, and unexplored. Its bias to a person, people can love their bodies, be turned on by their bodies without being high on theirselves.

No, if you are attracted by sexually attracted by yourself it can only be lust. You can't have sex with someone's mind.
Say there is a really beautiful girl(beauty is subjective of course but) who is stupid.
On the otherhand there is a girl who is as ugly as sin, yet she is a genius.
Who are people going to be more sexually attracted to?
THE HAWT GURL ZOMG.

Sexual attraction is shallow, ergo being sexually sttracted to yourself is equally shallow

April 27, 2008, 1:26 AM

Fair enough, thanks for keeping it mature, you make good points. I still believe that self love is possible to be done averagely, normal, humanely and does not deserve to be looked at in some sort of generalized terminology.

Good points, but I still disagree, and not because I want to justify ego, but I believe that sexually enticing yourself when thinking about sex and your own body can be sincere.

I am going to go watch a film, take care guys.

April 27, 2008, 9:36 AM

I'd do myself if I could. Totally not kidding.

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Originally Posted by Korytco

Not at all learning to appreciate ones body, value it , and take it seriously discover it as a sexual stimulus is by far something so simple or shallow.

lol, all that can be summed up in one word: masturbation.

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people can love their bodies, be turned on by their bodies without being high on theirselves.

I turn myself on when I look in the mirror...but that's due to a good dose of narcissism, which I assume is what you mean by "being high on themselves"? And I don't see how it's possible to be turned on by yourself without narcissim. There's a large difference between looking in the mirror and saying "hey, I look good" and "damn, I want me."

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Originally Posted by Korytco

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That is limited, narrowed, Perhaps I have lived my whole life before unnappreciated, un loved and that I believe women find a bigger body sexual .

BAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW.

This isn't livejournal.

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So when I look in the mirror I feel a sexual stimulus. That does not mean that I am high on myself it means that I am proud , and just a normal person, titles like a narcisstic, and over thought out labels are un-necessary because I can describe myself in a perfectly normal way if I was that person. The same goes for females dressing to fit their figures and being turned on by dresses, high heals and earning to be loved.

So you're comparing being turned on by seeing your body in the mirror.....to women being turned on by clothing? lolwut?

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To fill as if I have reached a certain status in my life,and to be proud of myself and identify my physical attributes with sexual wants, needs should not earn me some crude elementary terminology, generalization, that is shallow.

But...you're just talking in circles about how you turn yourself on and how masturbation is important. Judging from what you've said in this thread, you're a narcissist. There's no need to get defensive about that though

So what you're a narcissist? I'm one and I'll proudly admit it.

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I am part of my body and its all part of self sorry to let you down there. A discliplined body is a disclplined life style and vise versia to a no