Offense

August 17, 2008, 7:53 PM

After a discussion in the SB I decided there should be a thread on this. What are your general opinions on offense? For example; how easily do you find yourself offended, or how often would you say that you purposely try to offend others? Ofcourse, there's light-hearted teasing between friends, but I mean deliberately trying to hurt others for whatever reasons of your own.

Also, how would you say that you react to offense? I know some people who take any comments that might be regarded as offensive far too seriously, and bitch and whine about it for ages. >_> But then there are others who just shrug it off and move on, and then those who generally don't care at all.

Input?

August 17, 2008, 8:00 PM

I don't get offended that easily, I find the more calm I am in an argument or whatever, the better responses I give, which just shuts the other person up.

Added with my sense of humour that is sometimes abit "sick" I find it hard to be offended, it's a very rare thing.

I have offended a few people, but not always on purpose, I mean, I'll say something that would be funny if I was around people who knew my sense of humour, but around others they take it completely the wrong way. I won't go out of my way to cause offense to somebody unless they'd intentionally done something to harm someone I cared about, then I'd just rip them to shreds with a few sharp words.

The more angry I get, I've noticed I just tend to say crappy responses like "oh shut up" but if I stay calm and don't let myself be offended, then I can come out with something to own whoever it involves.

Not so good at on the internet (vocal tone and what-not plays a big part) but am pretty good at it irl.

August 17, 2008, 9:39 PM

I could never bring myself to offend anyone intentionally. That's just a no-no to me. Yes, I have offended some people but it wasn't done intentionally, primarily because I really cannot think of a good way to offend anyone at all.

It's just not in my nature. To me it's like thinking of a good comeback, and I really suck at comebacks. But anyway, as with DLFlux, it also depends on whether I am joking around and people take what I say out of context. It happens, but those who knows me have an idea that it is not my intention to offend, so they usually don't make a problem out of it. (Although they've told me cases where they thought I had meant to offend them).

Now, as far as me receiving the offense...I think I take it pretty well. Sure I'll whine a bit, but I'd dismiss it soon afterward. I don't take it as seriously since it's just a waste of thoughts and stress, but I'll be honest, I have taken some things seriously to the point where I was in tears. It just depends on the subject at hand. Some offense can be viewed as "nothing" but other offense do get people riled up especially if the one who offended you was someone close to you (a friend, family, etc.).

August 17, 2008, 9:49 PM

I never offend anyone deliberately. I can hurt people in other ways. e.g. I'm really good at spreading gossip. And nothing hurts people like gossip. But I shrug off offense like water. En Masse, like everyone offending me, I still don't get bothered by it.

August 17, 2008, 9:53 PM

Gossip is pathetic to be quite honest. Usually isn't true either, which makes you a liar. If you've got a problem with someone then you should just come out and say it, instead of getting all sly and shit. Gossip is also a way of turning other people against someone, so you're passing whatever problem you have onto others, so basically you can't deal with it on your own, or can't handle knowing people don't agree with you about something, which makes you weak.

Leave the gossip for journalists and OK magazine.

August 17, 2008, 9:58 PM

Truthfully, I think there's only one person who's sufferred a foul attitude from me and, even then, it was years ago and I was jumping on the bandwagon at the time.

I tend not to get offended very easily these days. My friends or, for that matter, any acquaintances of mine never say anything more than a joke. On the rare occasion where bad words are exchanged, I'm still exponentially more tolerable to offense than if someone I didn't know particularly well was trying to offend me - I see that as a form of ignorance and you all know what I'm like with ignorance. xD

I just really don't take offense very easily at all. At the end of the day, they're only words and I've found that saying "Oh, if you need me, I'll be in the corner, cutting my wrists open. May I borrow your sharp wit?" and variations of that seems to either let me win straight away or ... yeah, that.

August 17, 2008, 10:08 PM

I only do it if someone has really upset someone I like, to the point of tears and suicide threats. Trust me, it has happened. Otherwise, I'll just ignore it. I know that it's wrong, and making excuses doesn't make it right. But I also know that it's wrong to let someone get away with making someone else upset to that extent. Besides, I try to make sure the gossip I spread is true. Again, doesn't make it right. And I own up to it.

August 18, 2008, 7:11 AM

I can't think of one time when I've been offended, because I don't take things seriously. Not myself nor things people say about me. Whenever people try to insult me, which doesn't happen often, I respond, but I'm not actually offended. I just don't think people should get away with it. It's my own form of justice I suppose.

I don't offend people either, because whatever I say to them is too ridculous to cause offense. However I can annoy people if I feel like it, but I can't really offend them.

**MY YOUT00B** · August 18, 2008, 8:36 AM

I get offended very easily; I take everything in the ass, basically. It's because there's a gaping hole where my self-esteem is supposed to be. I even get a little offended when people type ">.>" to me (...and I just know someone's gonna quote that and then type that XD). I may get offended easily, but I bounce back quickly. When it comes to offending other people; yeah, sometimes I can be quite sarcastic when someone says something that indicates that they're uninformed, and sometimes I make fun of friends/family members (non-maliciously), and not know when to stop. I also sometimes purposely offend people who've offended me... well, I don't really try to offend them; I'll just be extremely curt, logical, and snippy.

August 18, 2008, 2:29 PM

I don't offend easily. Even if I do become offended, I very seldom let it show. I don't feel the need to make a scene or come off as an overly sensitive whinner. It'd have to be pretty bad to offend me in the first place, though. I just don't care enough.

As for offending other people, I'm sure I'm capable of it; however, I wouldn't try to offend someone on purpose. I use questionable language sometimes, so I'm sure I slip up.