Is flirting sincere, ok...

April 18, 2008, 11:15 AM

Before word lol

Ok now, I am not here to start a fight ,to come across as if I am a know it all...or any other insane accusation I have gotten in the past. I am sometimes a hard person to understand, and I apologize for that.

With that said please be considerate of me in this thread and everywhere else on the forum because rest assured I am making an effort to be considerate of you ,and I am asking for your input. Showing that I care about your opinions, and that I respect them. If you can not respect me then do not post in this thread. This thread is about flirting and not really me, but every thread I make I become the topic....please.....do not do it again.

Topic

Is flirting a natural thing, is it a normal reaction, when you like something that you see in a woman, is it natural to express it. Do you believe that there are tell tale signs to flirting, natural habits that surface. I mean if you have gf or bf but end up flirting with another person is that necessarily cheating, beyond a doubt or can flirting have any innocence? Is it a natural reaction to someone.

I mean naturally if someone is beautiful is it natural to act comfortable around them, smile , be friendly . If someone is flattered by you is it ok to show that you are flattered by that or is it some form of cheating to flirt?

Of course this could go much deeper , and their are factors but I am just starting a thread, the rest is up to all of you guys and girls.

Provide life examples or just discuss the morale implications, whatever. Hope you enjoy this thread, if you do not think you will then do the mature thing please and do not pick fights with me and give me a hard time for trying to share a bit of myself with the crowd.

I just want someone to talk to , it is not a crime .

Thougths about the topic?

Is it ok to flirt (nothing else suggested, its the topic not sex or anything) if you are in another relationship?

April 18, 2008, 11:26 AM

we can not count flirting as cheating becuse we don't know what is going on inside the person who is flirting.

April 18, 2008, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by old snake

we can not count flirting as cheating becuse we don't know what is going on inside the person who is flirting.

PMS?

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I think it's fine. It's commonplace to flirt with girls anyway, it's absolutely natural if you share a mutual attraction. Flirting isn't cheating, it's just a form of communication! (that's my excuse)

April 18, 2008, 11:45 AM

Flirting is perfectly natural. Well, I think so anyway. I'm a naturally flirty person, but Im like that with males OR females. It's not like Im trying to come on to them, and people that know me, know Im just being...me

It has got me into one or 2 odd situations with people I don't know all thta well, but, well, it's just something people do

I think it's more down to the indivdual than actually wether you flirt because you see someone you like. If I really like someone I might actually tone myself down because I go all shy hahaha.

April 18, 2008, 11:49 AM

Flirting is not cheating at all. There are times when a person flirts to gain the interest in the opposite yes but many (such as myself nine times out of ten) do it for good fun, abit of a laugh to lighten the mood maybe. Personally I feel its ok to flirt in a relationship but not too much incase the natural urges kick in and you end up cheating by accident. That would be bad and does happen, especially drunken fueled nights. I've never actually done it myself but I can't say it hasn't nearly happened once or twice in the past.
Then you have the fact your already attached to someone. Some except the fact your gonna flirt abit and thats fine, others down right don't like it. One has to take into consideration of the others feelings and if they don't like the idea of their man/woman flirting then its general consideration that you lay off it, at least whilst they are around. You don't want green-eyed monsters breathing down your neck after all.

April 18, 2008, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Ruud van Nistelrooy

PMS?

what do you mean by that?

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Originally Posted by Ruud van Nistelrooy

I think it's fine. It's commonplace to flirt with girls anyway, it's absolutely natural if you share a mutual attraction. Flirting isn't cheating, it's just a form of communication! (that's my excuse)

maybe it is fine to you but what about the others people or BF\GF what will thay think if thay saw you while you are flirting. most of them will say you are tring to cheat.

April 18, 2008, 12:27 PM

Moonie is quite right. I cba quoting him though

Flirting is perfectly natural between two people. It is fun, and I find it much more enjoyable than a regular conversation. That being said, flirting is not something I do consciously or with the intent of pulling a chick.
It's just more fun to drop 'You have beautiful eyes', into a conversation then something about the whether.

It's not cheating, but it's not so good if you are very serious about it.
It's also a good way to tell if someone is attracted to you, so it's arguably a reason of the perpetuation of humanity so far.

April 18, 2008, 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Iago

Flirting is perfectly natural between two people. It is fun, and I find it much more enjoyable than a regular conversation. That being said, flirting is not something I do consciously or with the intent of pulling a chick. .

Im so poor at explaining myself, but that's what I was attempting getting at xD
Altho, Iv never told a bloke he has beautiful eyes though, maybe fondled his muscles or demanded he shows me his tattoo's/ peircings etc

But again, there is never anything in it, even in a relationship, I will do that, when I was with my ex he'd just laugh at my daftness. I guess alot of it (relationship wise) is down to trust. I could have been accused of trying to cheat many times, when, infact that was never my intention.

April 18, 2008, 12:55 PM

i agree with old snake, i would feel horible if i found my gf flirting with another guy...