Is flirting sincere, ok... - Page 2

April 19, 2008, 4:49 AM

Well it really depends on the situation. For instance, if you are in a relationship and you truly love that person, then flirting with others may seem unnecessary to you, but for others, they can flirt with other people without doing any damage to the relationship at all because they know their limit and have control of the situation.

Also, there's also such a thing as "flirting with friends", male or female alike. No harm in that because clearly, it is not taken seriously. It is just one of those things that you guys can laugh about and be comfortable with.

For instance, I got this PM from Bei Bei last night:

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Originally Posted by Bei Bei

Why aren't you on msn? I MISS YOU!!!!!!!

I NEED YOU!!!!!

ME SO HORNY FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!

GET ON MSN!!!!!!!!!!! NOW!!!!!!!!!!11!!1!!1!!!!!one!!!!!1!

Now that's an example of harmless flirting. Was she hitting on me? I hope so, but most likely not.

-Coughs-

Anyway, I tend to "flirt" (if you can even call it that) more with friends that I am comfortable with (usually females...I don't know, they're just much safer, I guess. Plus it's hilarious. With guy friends, it can actually turn quite uncomfortable, and that was back when I was still single!), but to strangers...? - A big no-no. I don't associate myself with them because simply put, that is cheating when I have someone whom I love very much. It would feel like a betrayal. If I caught him flirting with other girls, I would definitely not be happy.

I've seen him "flirt" (gee, again, if it was even called that...it was more along the lines of joking and laughing it off) with our guy friends back in high school and I was not the least bothered by it because I know that it's something stupid between us all.

Others may disagree with me, but that's just how I feel about the situation. Strangers and flirting just don't mix with me.

April 19, 2008, 9:54 AM

Flirting is honest fun. You can look at whichever way you want rather you're in a relationship or not. Flirting is a way just to get people to liven up and stop with the small talk crap.

I've been in a relationship for 3 years now and my better half thinks it's hilarious when I flirt with other people. I flirt with my guy friends same as I do with gal friends. Always fun to make people uncomfortable.

And a relationship should have a foundation of trust, there's always boundaries you have in a relationship that you may think to be bad, and others not care too much about.

Personally my Mrs. can flirt with whoever she wants to, I know she gets hit on a lot as a bar back, but fact is I'm the one who gets to be with her day in and out. I wouldn't put it past any guy to try to steal her away from me, but I know for a fact she is someone I can trust and wouldn't do anything to hurt me.

So pretty much if someone is insecure about it, then you may have a bit of a trust problem. Or low self esteem, whichever comes first. All in all, flirting is flirting. And it always stops there for me at least.

April 21, 2008, 4:25 AM

Flirting while in a relationship? I consider flirting to be relatively harmless, personally. It's more of a way of acting friendly towards other people. I've been accused of flirting without realizing that I was doing it. Just being pleasant and chatting, really.

So yeah, I think it's okay to flirt while in a relationship...as long as it doesn't go any further. It's up to you to be loyal.

April 21, 2008, 4:42 AM

Flirting may not be cheating to some people, but to others it is. I don't think that flirting is bad, but at the same time I don't want to see my girlfriend flirting with another guy.

For me it is a double standard. I don't know what could be going on in my girlfriend's head at the time she is flirting. That is why I would not be happy with that. If I were flirting with someone though I know what I am thinking so I know if it is innocent or not.

It is all about perspective. We can't read each other's minds(at least I don't think we can).

April 21, 2008, 1:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Rasengod7

Flirting may not be cheating to some people, but to others it is. I don't think that flirting is bad, but at the same time I don't want to see my girlfriend flirting with another guy.

For me it is a double standard. I don't know what could be going on in my girlfriend's head at the time she is flirting. That is why I would not be happy with that. If I were flirting with someone though I know what I am thinking so I know if it is innocent or not.

It is all about perspective. We can't read each other's minds(at least I don't think we can).

But if you're flirting SHE mght not like it. What's good for the goose is good for the gander an' all that. If I had a bf and he was flirting with people yet he pulled his face if I was, I'd show him the door.

It's all about trust, and if you say 'you don't know what's going on in her head' you obviously don't trust her. Flirting is harmless as long as you don't take it too far

April 21, 2008, 2:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Rasengod7

Flirting may not be cheating to some people, but to others it is. I don't think that flirting is bad, but at the same time I don't want to see my girlfriend flirting with another guy.

For me it is a double standard. I don't know what could be going on in my girlfriend's head at the time she is flirting. That is why I would not be happy with that. If I were flirting with someone though I know what I am thinking so I know if it is innocent or not.

It is all about perspective. We can't read each other's minds(at least I don't think we can).

A strong man doesn't need to read others people mind. becuse he knows that there is no point from it

April 21, 2008, 2:11 PM

Meeeh. When some people flirt, they actually have some sort of feelings for their target, so in that case it kinda would be uncool to flirt. But some people (like me) just naturally flirt, because that's how they are. In that case it would be fine since it's indeed "harmless", but I know it might be hard to differentiate between the two types of flirting. That's why a lot of people consider it "cheating"; they can't tell if their significant other actually has feelings for this other person or not.

April 21, 2008, 2:14 PM

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Originally Posted by old snake

A strong man doesn't need to read others people mind. becuse he knows that there is no point from it

I'm going to be honest now. That is just fucking stupid.

Bambi is right, it's probably what I'd have written if i could be bothered.

Relationships(healthy ones anyway) are supposed to be equal and based on trust, uou just showed that yours' has neither.
It's extremely hypocritical to say to your gf 'hey you can't flirt cuz i ant trust yuuu ololololol but it r fine for me cuz i can read my own mind'
I wouldn't be supprised if you got hit for suggesting something as demeaning that

April 21, 2008, 2:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Iago

I'm going to be honest now. That is just fucking stupid.

and why is that stupid? i mean why should i read the peoples mind to no if they are flirting or not there is a limit for each of us and we can not cross that limit