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Old August 31, 2008, 10:38 PM   #1
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I'm so sad it's painful.

My father died yesterday and I went to his funeral today, but I'm sad beyond relief. All the things that I liked like watching movies, playing games, etc. seem so meaningless. I miss him already and it aches me to think that I'll never see him again. I'm so depressed that I can't even concentrate in studying. How do I cope with this awful pain? I have my mom and all of my other relatives whom I love but somehow something feels missing.
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Old August 31, 2008, 10:43 PM   #2
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Omfg. =(

I can't even begin to imagine losing anyone in my life, much less my parents. People who come through that must be so brave. One of my friends actually lost his dad to a sudden heart attack just before the hohlidays and I have no idea how he's managed to cope with it. I can only guess that it's true what they say about time being the only cure.

So sorry to hear about your loss. I'm sure most of us will be around if you just need a chat.

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Old August 31, 2008, 10:46 PM   #3
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=/ I'm sorry to hear that, Sofia...I can't even begin to imagine how painful it must be for you. The pain is fresh, so for now, don't worry about coping with the pain. It's there, it'll never go away, but it will subside in time. Spend time with your family - I'm sure you guys need each other.

If you need to talk, you know where to find me. -Hugs-
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Old September 2, 2008, 2:38 AM   #4
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i felt the same way when my grandmother died a year and half ago. it felt like nothing could ever make me feel the same again. but after some time passed, i began to see everything in a clearer light. i had the rest of my family to help cope with the pain, and i'm so glad that you have yours to help you as well.

now when i think of her, it's easy to remember the good things and difficult to remember the bad. stay strong. even though it's cliche, the night is always darkest before dawn.
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Old September 2, 2008, 2:43 AM   #5
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Well, if you end up becoming depressed, I suggest anti-depressants. And I'm sorry for your loss. I know how you feel. It has been almost a year since my Grandfather passed away from pancreatic cancer. :( Anywho, get well soon.
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Oh wow hun, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I can only begin to imagine how incredibly painful it must be for you. I do know what it feels like to lose those close to you, but not a parent. Right now, being with your family is the most important thing. Be there and support one another because you all need each other. We're all here for you as well if you need anything from us, just need to talk or need some free hugs. Take care hun.
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Old September 2, 2008, 10:02 AM   #7
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Grief, pain and sorrow are a natural part of life, there is no avoiding pain. There is no rule about coping with pain, it's something we all do in different ways. Some people concentrate fully on work, or in your case study. Other people do no work at all.
I think you have to do what comes naturally, don't go out of your way to do something. Like Mandi said, friends and family are very important when coping with losing someone. I was fortunate enough to have friends that supported me and put up with me for over a month. Your friends and family will understand what you're dealing with so they'll be there to help you.
I know this is a cliche, but time really does help, the pain will lessen and you'll be able to think of all the positive memories.

I'd also stay away from anti-depressants, alcohol and drugs. The help for a day, but you feel worse afterwards.
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Old September 2, 2008, 10:18 AM   #8
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Oh no.. I'm so sorry for your loss.

I won't say the common responses, because that won't make you feel better.. I hope you can get through this though. Be strong and Sayuri is right. You need to stay with your family and support each other right now. Take care. Talk to us when you have to.
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Old September 2, 2008, 10:38 PM   #9
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That's horrible. You have my condolences.
Take comfort in one thing, though... your father would not want his death to ruin your life.

I lost my mother when I was eight, and I barely knew her. I got over the sorrow gradually, but it can still come back, rarely.
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Old October 14, 2008, 1:48 PM   #10
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I hope you get better and I'm very sorry for your loss =/

Don't say that everything that you ever did with your father is pointless. It's good that you knew him instead of not having him at all. I'm sure he's proud of all the good things you did.
I lost my cat last year. Even a loss of a pet hurts me so...
But your heart has to go on. You can do it
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