Can you see your negative qualities , can you face them? - Page 6

March 25, 2008, 8:13 AM

I actually face both my negative and positive qualities equally. I'm usually more at peace with myself and those around me if I accept what's wrong and work to improve on what's wrong.

For example, I have a hard time 'socializing', if you will, or basically just keeping a conversation going without forcefully steering it to something that I actually want to talk about instead of something that my friend experienced the other day. I suppose I could be more subtle, but when I look back on it, it always seems that I sound kind of inconsiderate of what's going on in their lives and whatnot. So not good.
And I can never talk about anything other than academics in the long run. Conversations always have to end in 'So what tests are you guys taking tomorrow?' and shat like that. Really hard to turn around....

March 25, 2008, 8:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Mitsuki

Hmm, I am also very disorganized...like, I lose a lot of my possessions because either I don't take good care of my belongings very well, or I just misplaced them and forget where I have placed them. Either way, I hate that about me.

I have the exact same problem, it's really annoying too since I have a habit of moving stuff everyone in the house uses, then forgetting where I put it ><

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Originally Posted by Frisky

Looking people in the eye I really have issues with, I don't know why but it makes me feel uncomfortable

I have the same problem, I don't like being looked at either. For example, when I walk places whenever a car drives past I look down to the ground or to the side, I don't know why, but I just feel really uncomfortable and that's how I deal with it ><

March 25, 2008, 8:20 AM

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Originally Posted by General Beatrix

I have the exact same problem, it's really annoying too since I have a habit of moving stuff everyone in the house uses, then forgetting where I put it ><

I have the same problem, I don't like being looked at either. For example, when I walk places whenever a car drives past I look down to the ground or to the side, I don't know why, but I just feel really uncomfortable and that's how I deal with it ><

lol, hey I have that too, but that's probably 'cause that's how I was raised at home...like not making eye contact when you were being yelled at. And now it's weird because I'm neither in trouble nor am I being yelled at when I avert my eyes, so maybe it's out of habit.

March 25, 2008, 8:33 AM

My lord, I thought I was just weird, I have the exact same problem, but, I know what causes it. I think it's becuase I have two different coloured eyes, and whenever people see, that have to point it out, and tell everyone.
Its either that, or I just don't want people looking at me, makes me feel real uncomfortable, especially when I'm doing something, especially eating.

Now, time to start the list, and it's gonna be long.

-Can't look people in the eye (just said that)
-Waaay to much procrastination
-Unmotivated (I find myself way to bored on weekends)
-anti-social (not to particulary fond of humans, no offence)
-easily distracted (I'm always looking into the sky, thinking 'somethings gonna happen one day')
-Doctor Who crazy (whenever someone mentions the word 'Doctor' or 'Who', I'll listen in, hoping to have a nice long chat about the phsysics of the TARDIS)
-easily set off (get mad real easy)
-like to spend more time with electronics than people (wait, is that a bad thing, or is that just my parents talking)
-can't talk for too long (I'm a great listener, but, when I have nothing to say [which is pretty much all the time] I just don't talk)
-Am a teenager (nuff said)

I'm a hippie, yes, anybody on these forums will say that is a bad thing, but, to me, it is a good thing.

I shall think of more later

March 25, 2008, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Minister Artania

lol, hey I have that too, but that's probably 'cause that's how I was raised at home...like not making eye contact when you were being yelled at. And now it's weird because I'm neither in trouble nor am I being yelled at when I avert my eyes, so maybe it's out of habit.

That might be what it is with me

I was always getting yelled at, I was a bit of a pain as child

Im really stubborn aswel tho, Id be having a serious conversation with my ex (probbly of the break up kind

) and he'd be like will you LOOK at me when Im talking to you!. That just made me more aware of it and then I'd point blank refuse

And if I DID look he'd get such a scathing glare. I can be the evil stubborn little wench sometimes

March 25, 2008, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Frisky

Looking people in the eye I really have issues with, I don't know why but it makes me feel uncomfortable. And also as said above being stared at, it really makes me mad. I think people think Im rude or ignorant, like Im distracted by something else but I just am not comfortable with it at all

Oh god I'm like that aswell. Right pain in the arse.

I also add to mine the fact I think far too much into things. I actually think bad things far too much and because I bottle it up it makes me really moody even if their is no real reason for it. Paranoia is not good. And if that happened whilst ive been drinking heavy amounts, things can go terribly terribly wrong, Especially if my other 'FUCK IT' attitude comes back out to play

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March 25, 2008, 9:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Frisky

Looking people in the eye I really have issues with, I don't know why but it makes me feel uncomfortable.

Do you make eye contact when conversing with someone you barely know? Because I have a hard time making eye contact while conversing with people I don't really know. Like, when I'm talking, I'm so self-conscious that I start looking past that person's shoulder or shift my gaze left or right, then I'd momentarily kick myself mentally and practically force myself to make some eye contact.

I know it can be quite rude, but meh. >.>

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Apparently, when I hug people Im really tense aswel, I didn't even realsise I did it

I actually like hugging and stuff...well, if I know the person, if I don't i feel like telling them to stop invading my personal space, liek now.

Ack, try when someone you barely know kisses you with their cheek. I know, sounds weird. I was at a relative's party one time and this woman I don't know had to say goodbye, and just gave random people (including me) a "cheek kiss". Like, they'll touch their cheek with your cheek...sort of like a greeting/farewell kiss. It's so awkward...it totally caught me off guard.

I'm not much of a hugger myself, even with friends or family members. I don't know why. It's one of those awkward moments for me. I do have a lot of those.

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Originally Posted by General Beatrix

For example, when I walk places whenever a car drives past I look down to the ground or to the side, I don't know why, but I just feel really uncomfortable and that's how I deal with it ><

I used to be that way back in my teenage years. It actually annoyed a lot of my family members. Heh, one time I almost got run over by a bus three years ago because I wasn't looking at my surroundings. I was walking ahead of my friends and I heard them scream, so I turned quickly and as I did, the bus drove past me...a mere couple of feet away from me. Mind you, this was back in the Philippines and people have barely enough walking space as the roads are so damn narrow.

March 25, 2008, 10:44 PM

Hah, I used to have that problem with cars, now I just look straight forward when cars pass by. I mean, I know it's awkward when you're walking or driving to be looking at someone in their car and all of a sudden they look up at you and there's that really awkward moment... so I just don't look at cars at all, but I don't look down lest I get squashed.

I can generally make eye contact with people I really don't know, unless they're reaaaaaaaally weird. And by weird I mean like if they have a weird expression or air about them, but if they just have a weird personality, I can usually cope.