Can you see your negative qualities , can you face them? - Page 5

My Character Profiles · March 24, 2008, 6:40 AM

Uhm...one thing I consider to be a very bad quality would be "social discomfort"...or at least...that's what I would call it.
I'm not too comfortable around people; even people I know; like my family. And I don't even make an effort to act like I'm happy or comfortable when I'm not. I usually don't have a thing to say. Unless I'm incredibly comfortable or well-connected with someone, it's not even worth it to try having a lively discussion with me. Oh, and...I know and openly admit this about myself. XD
I think one factor that adds up to my social discomfort is that I'm very, very aware of when I'm being looked at. I wouldn't say that I'm scared of people being judgmental towards me, because...everyone is judgmental in their own way, and I expect people to look at me and critique me however they will...it just makes me vastly uncomfortable to have someone's eyes glued to the back of my head, especially since I'm pretty uncomfortable in my own skin...And there are so many times when I catch people staring at me, and I have to stare them down eye-to-eye for like 20 seconds before they look away.
I guess I'm overly attentative about that kind of thing.

Another "bad" quality about myself would be that I only listen to or pay attention to things that I want to. I consider myself to be very ignorant. But not the way you're probably thinking. ^.^
I like to learn and experience new things, don't get me wrong...but the "ignorance" that I'm talking about is more...the disrespectful kind.
For instance, when someone's talking to me about a serious matter...I usually chime out of the conversation and think about absolutely nothing until they're done. And in the same ignorant sense, I usually forget the things that people tell me, regardless of their importance.

And another...I'm not sure how I would define this...I'll give an example...
I used to love to listen to Guns N' Roses...but ever since my boyfriend started listening nonstop...I stopped hearing them. I also used to avidly watch a show called The Girls Next Door, but as soon as my boyfriend started to tivo it and bought all of the seasons...I stopped watching it, and I even consider it "annoying". There are certain "luxuries" I guess you could say, that I consider "mine", and I don't like to share them. XD
I think this would be defined as selfishness.
I also don't share food; ever...ever. In fact when someone eats food off of my plate or asks me to share, I get an overwhelming feeling of annoyance, and I'm usually pissed off for quite a while afterwards.

Overall, I think my worst quality is selfishness...by far.

March 24, 2008, 6:54 AM

inconsiderate. (at times)
Introverted.
snarky.
Master of procrastination.
unmotivated.
pottymouth. (i say shit or fuck in every other sentence i use

)
Out of it. (I.E: spaced out)
High. (apparently.

)

S'all I can really think of.

March 24, 2008, 2:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Booger

Uhm...one thing I consider to be a very bad quality would be "social discomfort"...or at least...that's what I would call it.
I'm not too comfortable around people; even people I know; like my family. And I don't even make an effort to act like I'm happy or comfortable when I'm not. I usually don't have a thing to say. Unless I'm incredibly comfortable or well-connected with someone, it's not even worth it to try having a lively discussion with me. Oh, and...I know and openly admit this about myself. XD
I think one factor that adds up to my social discomfort is that I'm very, very aware of when I'm being looked at. I wouldn't say that I'm scared of people being judgmental towards me, because...everyone is judgmental in their own way, and I expect people to look at me and critique me however they will...it just makes me vastly uncomfortable to have someone's eyes glued to the back of my head, especially since I'm pretty uncomfortable in my own skin...And there are so many times when I catch people staring at me, and I have to stare them down eye-to-eye for like 20 seconds before they look away.
I guess I'm overly attentative about that kind of thing.

OMG I totally know what you mean by this, Rhea. It isn't all the time for me, but sometimes I am just SO uncomfortable around my closest friends and family. Really, I'm always uncomfortable about my family because I rarely see them and they're just weird, but sometimes I just hate being around my best friends. Like I can't find something to talk about or something, so I just exist there in an awkward silence. I don't know why that happens, 'cause I'm usually a very outgoing and social person, but every once in a while I feel as if I'm petrified around people.

And sometimes I can't even look people in the eyes. This doesn't happen with everyone, but even with a few of my friends, I find it REALLY hard to look them in the eye. I'm just weird when it comes to certain people, I guess.

March 24, 2008, 3:24 PM

uhmmmm

negative(I always expect negative results)
insecure(mostly about myself)
stubborn(even though I know I'm wrong I'll stick to my opinions)
argumentative(not all the times but I do usually start it)

**Battle Royale: Profiles** · March 24, 2008, 8:40 PM

My flaws:
-Stubborn
-Analytical
-Calculating
-Lazy
-Argumentative
-Inability to empathize
-Occasionally lacking motivation
-Can't study to save my life
-Either easily distracted, or focusing too hard to break away, no real happy medium.
-Vain
-I do what I want, when I want, and this is probably my biggest flaw and problem.
-Honest, but a bit too blunt
-Judgmental
-Overly pensive. I think way too much, all the time.
-An excessive amount of defense mechanisms

I'm sure there's more, but, there's the lot of it. I know myself rather well, and I can honestly say and believe that. I have plenty of flaws, as you can see. Some may not be considered flaws, but sometimes I can use those skills in ways they shouldn't be used, which makes them negative.

I can say that, now that I have something to aim for, and someone to help support me, it's easier for me to try and fix my flaws. Without personal motivation, it's pretty difficult to give a damn.

March 24, 2008, 10:07 PM

Every human is flawed. For every positive trait, you have a negative trait. Recognising that is a part of growing up.

My flaws?

-Deep, broad thinker. (both positive and negative.)
-Overly cautious sometimes.
-Paranoid.
-Judgmental.
-Slightly vainglorious.
-Melodramatic at times.
-Master procrastrinator.
-I hardly stick to my own schedules. I think what CF said above best sums it up.
-Lazy and lacking motivation, at times.
-My thoughts are chaotic.
-Erratic at times.
-Sometimes socially insecure, quite introverted, if I don't push myself forward.
-Obsessive.
-I'm painfully honest sometimes, but I have a whole library of lies and excuses to cover my own backside.

I try to fight my flaws, and push through with my strengths.

March 25, 2008, 12:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Booger

I'm very, very aware of when I'm being looked at.

Ah, I have the same problem too. I feel uncomfortable when people look at me, even if it's only but a few seconds. And what's more annoying is that people who knows me very well know it and takes advantage of it just to further stress me out.

An example is my dad. We were all inside his car and he had a friend with him in the front seat. I was in the very back, just minding my own business. Then he tells his friend, "That's my daughter. Go stare at her, she'll feel very uncomfortable if you do." And then he laughs. What a cruel, cruel man. It's no wonder we don't get along at all. I didn't say anything, merely stared out the window and ignored them all.

Hmm, I am also very disorganized...like, I lose a lot of my possessions because either I don't take good care of my belongings very well, or I just misplaced them and forget where I have placed them. Either way, I hate that about me.

For instance, for the past three years now, I've lost more than 5 earrings, three of which were very expensive and a gift from my husband. The first one he bought me, I lost in the Philippines because I stupidly placed them on my shirt pocket, and after the laundry maid did the laundry (handwash), my earrings were gone. I totally forgot to remove them from my pocket.

And then he bought me another one after I got back in the U.S, which lasted for about two years. But last week, I lost one of the earring. >.> So today he bought me another one...

Yeah, I lose a lot of things...

My Character Profiles · March 25, 2008, 12:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Reality.Fantasy

OMG I totally know what you mean by this, Rhea. It isn't all the time for me, but sometimes I am just SO uncomfortable around my closest friends and family. Really, I'm always uncomfortable about my family because I rarely see them and they're just weird, but sometimes I just hate being around my best friends. Like I can't find something to talk about or something, so I just exist there in an awkward silence. I don't know why that happens, 'cause I'm usually a very outgoing and social person, but every once in a while I feel as if I'm petrified around people.

And sometimes I can't even look people in the eyes. This doesn't happen with everyone, but even with a few of my friends, I find it REALLY hard to look them in the eye. I'm just weird when it comes to certain people, I guess.

Ugh it's a terrible quality. X__x

I think what makes it so is that I spend about 99% of my time at home...I just never leave the house because the option isn't available for me. In fact, I probably walk through the gate in my front yard about...once or twice a week, and usually just to get a ride to the store or something.

I used to get really nervous when people would stare me in the eye. I would just look down and feel really uncomfortable until they left the area, but...I'm getting a little bit better at returning glares. XD

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Originally Posted by Mitsuki

Ah, I have the same problem too. I feel uncomfortable when people look at me, even if it's only but a few seconds. And what's more annoying is that people who knows me very well know it and takes advantage of it just to further stress me out.

An example is my dad. We were all inside his car and he had a friend with him in the front seat. I was in the very back, just minding my own business. Then he tells his friend, "That's my daughter. Go stare at her, she'll feel very uncomfortable if you do." And then he laughs. What a cruel, cruel man. It's no wonder we don't get along at all. I didn't say anything, merely stared out the window and ignored them all.

That's terrible. =x
I hate to be stared at. It's one thing to have someone look you up and down (which is still pretty uncomfortable), but...being stared at...

It gives me nausia.