I Think I'm Starting To Fall In Love

October 23, 2007, 4:57 PM

I've recently started having thoughts and feelings of the 'romantic' kind for a good friend of mine. Now wouldn't be a problem, but I've gotten involved with a friend before and it ended up going to the shitter very early, caused a lot of pain and I don't really wanna go there again....but at the same time I do

Bad.

October 23, 2007, 4:59 PM

Never be afraid to take a big step, yo cant cross a chasm in two small jumps.

October 23, 2007, 5:14 PM

Just tell her how you feel :/

I had the same problem.

October 23, 2007, 5:30 PM

Omfg, everyone has had this problem. Shitting hell, I'm the same right now.

The only piece of advice you're going to get, in whatever way people say it, is to just tell her and soldier on through the aftermath, or reap the rewards. Despite it being the only piece of advice ... it's some bloody good advice =)

October 23, 2007, 5:32 PM

I could do that yes, but then she might freak out and distance if she doesn't feel the same way. and considering the last couple of years I've had, distancing will not be good. But then if things did go well, theres the point of things getting weird and then distancing, which'll be worse.

Or not say anything and hope to god this really is just a minor phase because i've been single for quite a while

October 23, 2007, 5:38 PM

I think you could possibly use some female advice on the subject matter. If you're having feelings for her and you guys see each other often and are good friends, you shouldn't hide them from her. If you hid the feelings from her, it might make her upset in the long run that you didn't tell her in the first place. Be open and honest. I wouldn't think she'd distance herself from you, but I could be wrong, that's just coming from my views since I'm female.

Have you seen any signs or hints from her that she might feel the same way? Is she flirtatious at all with you? Why not try and pursue it? If you don't then you'll never know what'll happen. You could be walking away from something that could really benefit both her and yourself in the long run? There's always going to be a point of awkwardness, despite the situation at hand, but how will you know what's right and what's true if you never tell her?
Sorry if that sounded weird

I'm still half asleep.

October 23, 2007, 6:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Lady Aerith

I think you could possibly use some female advice on the subject matter. If you're having feelings for her and you guys see each other often and are good friends, you shouldn't hide them from her. If you hid the feelings from her, it might make her upset in the long run that you didn't tell her in the first place. Be open and honest. I wouldn't think she'd distance herself from you, but I could be wrong, that's just coming from my views since I'm female.

Have you seen any signs or hints from her that she might feel the same way? Is she flirtatious at all with you? Why not try and pursue it? If you don't then you'll never know what'll happen. You could be walking away from something that could really benefit both her and yourself in the long run? There's always going to be a point of awkwardness, despite the situation at hand, but how will you know what's right and what's true if you never tell her?
Sorry if that sounded weird

I'm still half asleep.

We are both fairly flirtatious in general anyways, its hard to notice genuine lust when we are concerned lol but I get what you mean.

However im staying over hers tomorrow night to watch scary movies, drink cider and making use of a free house whilst parentals are out the country. Jive

October 23, 2007, 7:51 PM

Oh man, free house of hers? Well, dont do it whislt youre drunk, BIG NO-NO!!! Watch the scary movies with her and keep her close if she gets jumpy, can make a nice atmosphere. But dont get drunk and tell her. Tell her how you feel beforehand.

October 24, 2007, 8:47 AM

I won't. Done that before with someone else a couple of years ago and it still stands as the worst night of my life, I have no intentions to top it just yet ha! But tonight im just gonna make do with keeping it casual as per normal, probably tease her a bit with Micheal Myers of Halloween (she seems quite jumpy at the thought of him in her big house).

October 24, 2007, 9:24 AM

I agree with SapphireStar on this. Tell her how you feel before the drunkeness starts. Also have a nice chat with her about stupid, boring stuff that's really funny.

I once told a friend how I felt about her. We ended up being more than just friends after that. She told me later on that she was glad that I told her what I thought. I asked her if she had the same feelings about me before the time that we ended up being more than just friends, and she said, "I've never thought of you in that way." Now look at me: I'm gettin with a girl that I otherwise would have never gotten with if I had never said anything. So telling her how you feel can only be a good thing in my opinion.