Dating Advice

May 9, 2008, 8:20 PM

Lol, I feel awkward right now, but considering like half of you are older than me, I would like some dating advice from the 'PROS', lol, that was half a joke. Now, (oh crap I heard this before...) There is this girl, and yeah...I have somethin for her. (not a present, emotional somethings.) And she pretty much knows about it already, but I don't know how to get her to like me. Like, I am not very "cool", if you know what I mean. (HERE WE GO) This is a sort of personal thing I don't like to share, but I trust you guys since I don't know you and like lots of you are in the US or England. But some people like to call me gay, and you see, this isn't true. I think they say that because they are jealous, (that probably sounds wrong but I will explain.) I have a talent to do like 10,000 different voice impressions and I can do a perfect girl one. But they think I am gay because of it. ANYHOW, I just need some advice. (WOW I JUST WROTE MYSELF QUITE THE PARAGRAPH LOL)

May 9, 2008, 8:38 PM

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I trust you guys since I don't know you

That's just backwards logic to me.

Anyway, you can't make someone like you. If they like you; they like you. If they don't; they don't. So be who you are and hope that it works out the right way. If not, then it's not the end of the world.

May 9, 2008, 8:42 PM

You sound really sweet and honest, shame so many people out there tend to ignore those nice kind of qualities. I don't think there's anything about yourself that you should change, even if you are shy if that's a part of who you are then that's ok. Although if you do get into a conversation with this girl, a cheeky smile and a good flow can help ^^

People who pick on you because of your talents are jealous, it's true what you're saying. They probably call you "gay" because they don't have the maturity to think of anything else to say, they just want to belittle you as much as they can, in the most derogatoy way they can think of. They probably know you're not gay, they just want to put you down basically. Classic jealousy. It's good to rise above that kind of behaviour

You haven't said much about how close you are to this girl, just that you think she might know about your feelings. Do you see her often? If you do, and you are already pretty good friends with her, then spending time hanging out with her will help, she'll see your true self that way and may come to appreciate it. If you're not too close, then maybe try to become better friends, but not too much as you'll draw the wrong kind of attention to yourself, or she might get suspicious. Talking is your best friend though, do as much of it as you can

Heheheh I'd hardly call myself a "pro" (*_*), but hope this advice is helpful. Hang in there, and give it time, no use expecting immediate results, just keep being a good friend and who knows eh? ^^

May 9, 2008, 8:45 PM

Try and be subtle, if you go in too full on then that's going to SCARE HER. Don't try and force the issue and try and make her like you, that's just like the female argument of "I'M GOING TO CHANGE HIM"... Never going to work. Anything forced is always going to be shaky, not saying it doesn't work, just try and avoid being too hasty.

Good things come to those who wait...

May 9, 2008, 8:58 PM

Thank you Incorrect English, that was some good stuff, and how close am I? Well, The thing is, I don't know exactly. She is in my class I at least say a few sentences to her each day. Lol, I also let her wear my awesome sweater when she is cold. (NOW THAT IS A POINT WE SHOULD WRITE DOWN!!! not literally.) Another thing, she stole my pencil case in class one day, and wrote her name on it and put "BFF" under her name. (O.o OOOOOoook...) She actually danced with me once for an "Oh, I dunno" reason as she put it. So yeah...

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Originally Posted by Ruud

if you go in too full on then that's going to SCARE HER.

THAT'S WHAT I'M AFRAID OF! Asking her out too early and randomly and she will LITERALLY BE SCARED and never say a word to me for like 6 months!

Got to hurry though, WHAT IF SHE FINDS...someone else!

May 9, 2008, 9:10 PM

Whoa sounds like she's pretty forward actually!!! Either that or she's doing that annoying girl "oooohhhs but we are such good friends tralala" thing. I'm not sure. But yeah like Ruud and English Dave said, best to see how things play out ^^

May 9, 2008, 9:17 PM

1. be honest with her.

2. just be who you are.

3. don't act like you are someone else

4. don't lie to her.

5. when she talks be quiet and listen to her carfully.

6. if you see sad smile and try to cheer her up.

7. if something bothers her ask her about it, if she tells you what it is then try to help her.

8. if something bothers her ask her about it, if she says that there is nothing bothers her then tell her that you respect her wish and don't talk about it.

9.when she shows you something she made such as painting, drawing, a story, or anything else give a compliment and try to encourage her.

May 9, 2008, 11:18 PM

This seems more fitting in Temple of the Ancients, so...

-Thread Moved-

And it's kinda hard to tell. I mean, are you friends with this girl or not? Not that it matters...I'm just trying to imagine the situation. Anyway, I say get to know her more first, and do make it known that you are interested with her, but asking her out too soon may not be a good idea...for some. Just take it slow, but not too slow.

If she likes you, then things will happen to its own accord. If not, then oh well. You're young, it's not the end of the world. You'll meet other girls, different time and places. What I'm trying to say is...just don't get your hopes up, you know what I mean? Things won't always go your way, despite the "dating advices" that you receive from others.

May 9, 2008, 11:32 PM

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Originally Posted by English Dave

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That's just backwards logic to me.

Anyway, you can't make someone like you. If they like you; they like you. If they don't; they don't. So be who you are and hope that it works out the right way. If not, then it's not the end of the world.

'nuff said

Just be yourself and take things from there, you should at least have some knowledge about here (likes/dislikes etc) and you should know her...or at least spoke to her! If she doesn't know who you are what you're like etc, then its probably a no-go. But she needs to like you for who you are, trying to impress her probably will force her the other way (like in most cases), so just act natural and like Pools said "If they like you; they like you. If they don't; they don't."

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'PROS'

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