Originally Posted by ~SapphireStar~

I should write a book or something lol. Or you guys get jobs as agony aunts lol.

Well, I recently got in contact with my first boyfriend via FaceBook. We dated for 9 months when we were 17 and went to the same high school. I was told he fancied me in high school, yet said nothing. We had a lot in common, but he dumped me saying he wasnt ready for a serious relationship. That almost killed me cause it was my first relationship and I was devastated. We then got back together for 2 months, then he dumped me again cause he confessed he was in love with a girl from work! Another double blow. But she had fancied him, but wouldnt have him as she dated one of his friends.

He was immature , and did not know what love was yet. He had illusions of the idea, lied to himself and others. Hurt those that truly did love without understanding or caring about the effects of those truly loving. He was experimenting in life and looking for better results. You are not the person he was looking for , trial and error, young people who date do that....

He sounds immature, sexual and as if he does not believe in love. At least not in the way that you do or want him to, that is not likely to change, but who knows.

I then wanted nothing to do with him, but when I moved onto my next partner, he was back on the scene saying he needed me and I cheated on my ex with him for about 3 months. He said he loved me and wanted me to leave my ex for him. But I couldnt cause what had happened. I last seen him 6 yeras ago. Then met him on FaceBook. He was asking my friends about me and how I was doing.

Im confused here cheating on your X as you moved on ? When you wanted nothing to do with him? How is that cheating?

We started chatting again and Ive told my current boyfriend that we're talking and hes fine. I then found out that after he dumped me for the second time he got into a serious relationship with another girl and he hasnt gotten over her, even though he is now in an open relationship with a married woman! I was gutted cause he said he wasnt ready with me, but he was ready for the next one. It hurt me.

If he has not got over her maybe she is really what he was looking for in a woman and you were not. As for the married woman that would be considered experimenting some more. I would consider it immoral , and just wrong. Not responsible and considerate of those that love her , its just not right and people can not see this anymore.
Now I can say Im over him, but the pain has come back what I felt when I was 17. Im truly in love with my current boyfriend and want to be with him for the rest of my life
Perhaps your ex feels the same way about this girl, if so it works out nicely. I can not see you being happy with someone that did not think you were right for him anyways...Or maybe she is more easily played and has lower standards as to what a serious relationship is. I do no think you seriously wanted to be committed to a man who sleeps with a married woman....can you say DIVORCE ? It is best that he left you, and you would have been BETTER off if you had left him.
(he doesnt know that lol!), but Ive removed him from my contacts list as the girl he left me for has started chatting to him as if she did nothing to our old relationship! It made me so angry how she was asking what uni was like for him and at that time I was seeing him. Its like he used and lied to me and it just hurts.
He gave in to you irresponsibly, you should have not been together in the first place. It sounds like to me, at least. That you and him are not meant to be, obviously. Perhaps his latest GF is meant to be with him, the search is over. Or maybe the new target will learn as much from him as you did . Eventually his sins will bite him in the ass.

I would say used , but I think he was pretty honest in how he felt, he told you he wasn't ready for a serious relationship and he left you. He is with someone now, and you claim they are serious, perhaps that is the truth . He did not lie before. (based on what I have read so far)
He searched around , slept around and maybe found love...Or maybe he just found someone else that he thinks he loves.

He left you to experiment more. When you experiment more, you are looking for different or better results. Typically...better and different is opinionated, in his opinion it could mean lower expectations and more easy.

I know its along time ago, but its like I was a doormat to him. I did have strong feelings for him and he dumped me twice and moved on as quick as possible. Same happened with my ex, he dumped me for another woman and I feel like shit.

These guys are losers, you seem to want to get serious too quickly, just an opinion.

When he leaves his new gf is he does , I bet you could get some closure but talking with her on MSN or something , Im sure you both will be able to relate. The more you share with people that know the truth, the more the truth spreads. Or attempts to, if he never leaves here you know that he did not lie about you 2 not being right for each other. He is a jerk aways, and much worse.