Would I be a good Daddy?

August 6, 2008, 7:04 PM

Srsly?
To be honest I think i'd be great. Ok maybe not right now but a few years down the line when all is chusty (and major clean up of my vocab) I reckon I'd be a pretty good Dad to a liddle Moon. However earlier when this came up in convo (im not sure how but it did) with some of my female friends, one just laughed as if it should never be allowed to happen for the good of the world

What a bint eh.

Topic is this; Do you think you'll be a good Father/Mother? Do you reckon you could pull it off now if it ever suprisingly came up or do you think you need to change alot before hand? and do you get utterly fucked off when your friends don't have much faith in you?

August 6, 2008, 7:14 PM

I was well not prepared for it. Like at all. I was convined I'd be a shit mother and I don't think I'm the greatest now either tbh, but you learn from your fuck ups and no one can ever go into it 'prepared' anyway if you ask me. It's certainly not a walk in the park, especially if you are doing it on your own, which being a man, I doubt that will ever happen to you anyway. I had like 9 months to prepare and when she popped out I was looking at this mini me thinking WTF do I do now?! Hahaha

I think most of it comes naturally, even if you think you are prepared you might get smacked in the face by PND, or you might think you will be the shittest parent in the world and take to it like a duck to water

Most pregnancies happen by accident and most people cope just fine, if you spend all your life waiting to be ready then it'l never happen. I certainly am not planning on having anymoar mind haha

August 6, 2008, 7:33 PM

Contrary to the radical idea that I'd turn my children into mini Hitlers, I think I have enough sense of discipline and rationality to be a fairly decent parent. Will I make mistakes? Well sure, but I'd make sure none of them were major.

If I ended up randomly being informed I'm a father tomorrow, I'd probably fall flat on my back and not get back up; there's no way in hell I'm in any state to support a child. When around 30 - that's when I intend to consider it as a serious path I should take - though with me it all comes down to finances; if you can't financially support yourself and one other (or even just yourself) there's no way having a child should be on the cards.

Hopefully by that time I'll also be significantly maturer than at present, and mentally capable of dealing with a child or two. Within the next few years, I can't see myself being ready to settle with such liabilities.

August 6, 2008, 10:17 PM

Hmm. i think i'd be ready by the age of 20. I've actually thought about this one, even before i read this thread...a lot

I know i'm really mature for my age, and i also know i'm not like other guys...not in a gay way. I mean like in a more caring way. I hate arguing with people and treating people like shit. And in relationships i give my all. So if thats what if thats how i treat normal people and my lover, imagine how i'd treat my own blood. I'm used to stress and tiredness due to what i do and i'm always babysitting my younger sisters so it wouldn't exactly be something completely new to me.

Plus i'm not one of your typical lazy fat assed guys that sit on the couch all day watching football drinking beer. I hate both as matter of fact, so i think i'd be quite a good dad

August 6, 2008, 10:29 PM

Not meaning to blow my own trumpet but I think I'm a better mother to my cousins kids than my cousin herself, those kids are like my own because I have brought them up and taught them so much that their mother couldn't so I think that when I'm ready to be a mother i will do ok, if it ever happens anyway....

August 7, 2008, 1:00 PM

Hmm. I doubt I'm ready for a child anytime soon. I'm still trying to enjoy youth as it only comes once.

I'm not good with children. For some reason, they enjoy tugging my hair and shouting in my ear. But I would like to believe that if and when that time comes, I could, not just handle the child, but enjoy as well. Whether I'm prepared or not.

Would I be a good mom? Yes, because I think motherhood is a skill.
All it would take is willingness, practice and most importantly, mistakes.

August 7, 2008, 4:26 PM

Well one thing for sure I'm not ready to have a kid at all. I haven't finished college, nor I will have good enough support to have a child. Before I ever decide to have a child I'd want to wait until I'm 28-30s, and have a very good income. I rather enjoy my life now childless. Not having to worry to pay for a second person.

When I do have kids, I want to be an excellent mother. Not repeat any mistakes my parents did or what other parents have done. One thing for sure I will not home school my children. Also I would read to them every night, have them join activities such as ballet, karate, sports, and try to teach them two languages.

August 7, 2008, 6:34 PM

I think when the time comes I'd be a good mum. I certainly wouldn't consider it right now because I'm only 16, and I'd like to have a good job and preferably be married before I'd start thinking of reproducing. >_> I'd say about 10 years down the line atleast, there are lots of things I'd like to do first.

I've always been really good with kids for one thing, I know that being a parent is more than just getting on with them ofcourse but I'd like to think that I'm sensible and responsible enough when need be aswell. Or atleast I will be when the time comes. >_> Even if I was left with a child now I think I could do an okay job, I've picked up quite a lot of things from the way I see other people treat their kids. Like when I'm out and I see mothers yelling at their kids to stop screaming and smacking them in the middle of the street.. in some ways I feel sorry for them because their really stressed but I also can't help but think that if I ever have kids I'd try not to resort to that. <_< I've also been taking care of my 10 year old brother since he was born and I know how to get through to him and make him listen to me without having to scream at him.

So yeah, I think I'd make an alright mother.

August 12, 2008, 8:53 PM

No, I'm far too selfish, and (like my own father) a bit of an arsehole. I wouldn't wish that on any child, I'm also too selfish to be a parent...well a good one anyway. Having said that if push came to shove, I'm sure I'd get by but I wouldn't implement this naughty step idea, I'd be more of a "shut up or I'll smack your arse". And no, I'm not worried a shit whether my friends have faith in me or not, if I know I can do it that's all that matters to me.

August 12, 2008, 8:57 PM

No, I don't think I'd make a good parent. I'm way too lazy and insensitive, and I don't make for a good "lean-on" person because I'm much too independent and unsupportive. At least that's what the neuropsychologist told me. I'd also prefer a solitary lifestyle, which unfortunately means I can't include children in my personal life--I couldn't because my hobbies, art and math are not worth giving up for a child. No man is worth any mathematical revelation or realism of art.