Recovery and reconstruction

July 6, 2007, 2:56 AM

Do you believe or think that it's difficult to repair the past, as in your personal past, and more specifically, after you are devastated by some event?

Like say, after your entire family died in a car crash or something? How hard would that be to recover lost memories? How long do you think 'til that heals?

It may take weeks, it may take months, it may take even years, but in the end, I believe that it's possible to recover almost completely; almost completely because there will always be that one little spot in the back of your mind that thinks about it. It will either drown in the depths of your mind or will be in it forever.

Thoughts?

July 7, 2007, 6:56 PM

Its very hard to recover from traumatic events. But I think it also depends on how old you are when it happens. When I was 6 years old my grandmother on my mom's side passed away and I was devastated. But I got over it within 3 months. My dad's mother is still alive, but if she were to ever pass it would take a LOT longer than 3 months to get over. Relationships are kinda the same. I was with my high school sweetie for six years. I broke up with her 3 years ago when I was 22. She was my first love and I still love her and I'm still not over the break-up. I don't know how long it will take, or if I will get completely over it. So to answer your question Warbourne, I guess it all depends on the person and the circumstances. Some things are easily forgotten while others stick in your mind everyday.

July 7, 2007, 6:59 PM

i have had too much to deal with but i get over things quickly as i never knew how to react to things so i just shrugged it off

July 7, 2007, 7:12 PM

Thanks to a medical problem I have

I can forget alot of things. Somethings you can get over...some you never will

. I believe the best thing to do in any case, is to cut your losses, repair what you can, and move on. I lost almost everything I had 5 years ago(almost 6) and have been trying to regain a"normal" life (normal for me). I realize that there are some things I will never have again (my dog, who was 9 when I was forced to give him up for example

, or the years I have missed seeing some of my relatives). I am better off than I was last year though(I lived on the street

) and to me, that is what matters right now

.

July 9, 2007, 5:22 AM

I believe that it's hard to move on once you do something drastic that affects something or someone. As far as repairing the past...that depends. Some things just can't be repaired. What's done is done and there's really nothing you can do about it.

You either hold your head high and move on, as hard as it may seem...or let the past meddle your present life and future, which is a bad thing. (That is, if your past is extremely drastic.)

However, there are some cases in which you can still repair something regarding your past. That takes a lot of patience and time though. And forgiveness...in general, anyway.

July 10, 2007, 2:29 AM

Old bloke here!

Life is harsh, and it's easy to say "hey, move on, get over it". Truth is, every harship we face (and we all must) is handled differently because each of us have a totally original emotional tie to that event.

I class myself as a reasonable adult but when I recently split up with my partner, I hit the booze in a bad way. Am I over it 3 months down the line? No. But I know I will be.

Truth is, it is much easier to give advice than take it, even your own. So I'm going to do just that and give advice!

If you are ever grieved, feel bad or are just down.... take your time, heal at your own time in what ever way YOU feel you need to.

It's a cliche, but it's true, time always helps.