Love Satisfaction

July 8, 2007, 11:08 PM

Who'd a thought we'd see a love topic not made by Warbourne

I'm curious to know how many of you are happy once you're in a relationship? It sounds like a stupid question but I know a lot of people who really struggle to find that perfect person... and one of the major reasons for that is because when they get with someone, they're just not happy with that person.

They either seem to pick people that are totally incompatible with them or they're very "I want what I can't have" kinda people. And when they get what they've desired for so long, they no longer want it. I'm kinda guilty of that but I'm greedy and would have the world if I was allowed to take it. If you gave me a blonde, I'd ask for a brunette and a redhead just to try them all out.

There are a lot of people out there though that I could find myself happy with. However, I'm not someone who wants to settle for anyone who isn't completely compatible with who I am. And there's a lot more women out there that I care about and would like to be with short-term than there are women I could marry and spend the rest of my life with. Most of the time the division is pretty clear for me, although it doesn't win me any brownie points with women in general.

July 8, 2007, 11:10 PM

I have been happy in my past relationships and my current one. But the last one kinda has scared me mentally and Im finding it difficult to relax even though its 6 months this month *touch wood*

My boyfriend has never been in a proper relationship before and hes just abit unsettled with us. He is use to being alone and not opening up with feelings, but we are getting there slowly but surely.

July 8, 2007, 11:27 PM

i've only been happy once...
usually it's fine for 2-3 days, but then the fire just starts... dying...

and then it's over after 10 days or something... and well, i'm usually the one left heartbroken..

perhaps i'm the one to blame.. i usually get "complaints" that i game too much(if you call 4-5 hours per day much) but meh, if you want a relationship with me, you'd have to be prepared to take my gaming with it, i'm not gonna give that up for a girl...

corrently i am... "working" on a getting a relationship with a girl i consider extraordinaire... i've never felt like this before.. perhaps it's a sign?

July 9, 2007, 10:51 AM

I dated a gamer and I put up with his gaming for over 3 years. But after awhile, it does become tiresome and it was recking the relationship as he constantly had to train for tournments nonstop. I tired my best to put up with it, but it drove me to the brink of madness.

July 9, 2007, 10:57 AM

I thought I was happy in all my relationships before, but they always used to get irritated by my problems in life, I cant help having a shitty family life, it just seems in big familes there is more likely to go wrong, my family's medical history isnt the best ever and I have a high chance of falling under the same category, and no one seems to understand I have alot to deal with, but then Kirsti came along and accepted me for who I am and not what they wanted me to be, I fell in love properly for once but now it looks like it is failing...

July 9, 2007, 11:03 AM

My current boyfriend has had problems with himself and family for years and I have been told that it would be good for him if I left him, yet it would also destory him. I cant win. I care about the guy alot and even though its only been 5 months, I have strong feelings for him.

I dont want us to spilt up, but I think if we do, it'll be him who does it. He is alot happier since we had a serious chat where we spitl up and got back together that night and is getting in contact with his feelings for me. He finds it difficult as hes never had to do this before.

July 9, 2007, 5:15 PM

I find it difficult to find a woman who carries the same interests as me. And that's probably why both of the major relationships in my life have failed. The first one was promising. We were pretty compatible. She liked video games, gettin high, listening to metal, and she was HOT! Then she quit smokin weed, started listening to hip-hop, and quit playing video games. We were together for 6 years before I finally broke up with her. We just couldn't get along. She didn't like the music I was playing on my guitar, she wanted me to quit smokin weed, and she wanted me to give up Final Fantasy. We were arguing at least twice a week. 3 weeks after I broke up with her I found a different woman. We were not compatible at all. She listened to Tejano and Norteno (music sung in Spanish here in Texas). Never played video games, and didn't care if I smoked. In the 2 years I was with her we got into 2 arguments. But she was 17 years older than me and she treated me more like a kid than as a boyfriend. I had to get away from that as well. Now I'm dating a woman who is just like the first one. I'm a little afarid that we will end up just like in scenario #1. I like this girl a lot and I'll just have to see how it turns out.

July 9, 2007, 5:59 PM

I'm not sure about the women you've dated or you specifically... but just as a general rant your situation #2 pisses me off. I hate when guys and girls don't get along at all and yet they stay together for some unfathomable amount of time. 2 years seems like a lot for a decent relationship but for a crappy one... why? I'm sure there were other guys that came along that would've loved to have dated her but she was "taken".

And it's interesting how much people change over the course of a relationship. Granted a lot of stuff always stays the same... and they always seem to be pet-peeves but a lot of the major things about a person really seem to alter throughout a relationship.

I've always imagined relationships to be like large balls of yarn that were just rolled across the ground. They don't have to start off anywhere near one another or even necessarily be rolling toward one another... but as they roll out, the way they unweave and the bumps in the road they're rolling on determine where they roll to next. And if two balls of yarn happen to roll parallel to one another for a portion of time, the yarn that is laid down connects to one another. The longer they roll side by side the stronger that connection becomes. The yarn being laid down eventually becomes one big strand produced by the two rolling balls. At any point, due to the way the balls unravel or the topography of the road they're traveling on, the balls may be pushed farther from one another... but if those bonds are strong enough the balls will always roll back together. If not, the balls will roll apart. They will always be tethered together to some degree but that tethering won't necessarily affect where it rolls in the future.

July 9, 2007, 6:11 PM

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Originally Posted by ~SapphireStar~

I dated a gamer and I put up with his gaming for over 3 years. But after awhile, it does become tiresome and it was recking the relationship as he constantly had to train for tournments nonstop. I tired my best to put up with it, but it drove me to the brink of madness.

well, i don't do tournaments...
i'm an amateur gamer, all i ask is my daily portion of gaming... at least 3 hours(2 on a schoolday)... then all my attention can go to my GF

i used to be a 10 hour per day gamer... but seriously, that's only outside of relationships...
i do respect my GF, unlike your BF did then

i guess i was just (un)lucky to get the types that want every little bit of your attention and don't want to share you with anything or anybody else(friends or games in my case)

July 9, 2007, 6:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Aztec Triogal

I'm not sure about the women you've dated or you specifically... but just as a general rant your situation #2 pisses me off. I hate when guys and girls don't get along at all and yet they stay together for some unfathomable amount of time. 2 years seems like a lot for a decent relationship but for a crappy one... why? I'm sure there were other guys that came along that would've loved to have dated her but she was "taken".

And it's interesting how much people change over the course of a relationship. Granted a lot of stuff always stays the same... and they always seem to be pet-peeves but a lot of the major things about a person really seem to alter throughout a relationship.

We stayed together because we were high school sweeties. Another thing we had in common was that we were each other's first loves. Everytime we got mad at each other we would make up quite nicely (oh how nice it was

). It was like we couldn't live with each other, but then again we couldn't live without each other as well.